How to Look Good While Trying to Get Attention

Ever caught someone’s eye when you’re out at a cafe or somewhere else? Find out how to look good while trying to get attention with these 10 tips.

Almost all the time, we come across someone that we like.

It could be in a restaurant, a cafe, at a conference or even in college.

But as much as catching someone’s eye matters, a lot depends on what you do next too.

Have you ever caught someone’s eye only to see that they've lost interest in you after a while?

That cutie from across the table may have been trying to catch your attention, but all of a sudden, they may not care anymore.

Ever wondered what went wrong?

How to look good with trying to get someone’s attention

The first exchange of glances may stir a lot of emotions, but to keep someone’s interest in you piqued, you need to look good and rouse their interest in you all along the way.

Here are 10 tips on how to look good while catching someone’s eye for the first time.

#1 Appear like you have a life. Appear busy or seem occupied. You may have caught someone’s fancy, but don’t ever make it seem like you have nothing better to do than stare at that person. By staring constantly without taking a breather, you’d either appear like a loser or creep this person out in no time.

#2 Get the right eye contact going. Eye contact is everything. It’s the first step to all good things, especially in love and relationships. If you want to look good in someone else’s eyes, you need to learn the art of flirting with your eyes. Sneak a glance now and then, and always make the other person want more. [Read: 10 eye contact flirting tips]

#3 Don’t be by yourself unless you have no choice. It’s easier to look good when you’re in a big group. It’s easier to get attention. It’s easier to appear busy. And it’s definitely easier to seem like you’re the center of attention.

You may assume it’s easier to get attention by sitting away from your group, but in reality, sitting with a few friends always brings more attention, especially from the opposite sex. But if you’re out with a few friends who make you look bad, well, you’d be better off sitting by yourself.

#4 Show off your best assets. Do you think you have great legs or perfect shoulders? Show it off? Sit in a manner that would accentuate your best assets to this person. Of course, you do have to be discreet about it though.

#5 Blush or look embarrassed when your eyes meet. No matter how obvious the staring game and the stolen glances may be, show your awkwardness when your eyes meet. The air of nervousness always makes romance so much more beautiful and sweet.

#6 Get your friends involved. This is an easy way to make things more awkward between both of you. Let your friends stare at this person and nudge you now and then or make a big deal about the flirty game. By doing that, the whole staring game would become more obvious and impossible to overlook by either of you.

In several cases, stolen glances just die out within a few minutes when the novelty wears off. But by involving your friends, you can keep the game going on for a lot longer.

#8 Feel sexy about yourself. Unless you love yourself and find yourself attractive, no one else in the whole world will ever find you attractive. Be confident and feel good about yourself. If you catch someone staring at you, stare back at them and feel good about yourself. The fact that someone cute is trying to catch your attention instead of anyone else in the room does mean something, don’t you think?

#9 Don’t appear nervous or fidgety. No one likes nervous Nelly. A fidgety person puts anyone off. Sit back comfortably and just have fun with the stolen glances. You really don’t have to do anything about it if you’re not ready to take the next step yet. You can play with things around you to pretend like you’re bored, but don’t reveal your nervousness for anyone to see. [Read: 10 biggest dating turn offs]

#7 Good posture. Always sit upright or stand tall with a good posture when you’re trying to get attention. It makes you look good. If you’re a girl, a coy posture can work wonders. If you’re a guy, a dominant posture will always work in your favor.

#10 Create opportunities for each other. If both of you have been exchanging glances with each other, don’t let it go in vain by chickening out before interacting with each other. There’s not much a guy can do here other than make a move and talk to the girl. [Read: Do girls like shy guys who don't make the first move?]

But if you’re the girl, give the guy an opportunity to talk to you by excusing yourself from your friends when you think he’s ready to talk to you. Walk past him and discreetly smile at him as you step out or go to the ladies room. It’ll be his cue to get up and talk to you.

Eye contact may be the first of many good things. But you still need to get these 10 tips on how to look good right if you want to get someone’s attention and make them like you at first sight.

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20 Signs of Attraction in the First Conversation

Ever met someone and felt like he’s attracted to you? Here are 20 signs of attraction in a first conversation that can reveal whether a guy likes you.

You meet guys all the time.

But occasionally, you may meet someone who seems more than just friendly.

Now all girls know that guys fall for a girl a lot faster than girls fall for a guy.

And while you may not notice it, his overenthusiastic nature may just be his way of letting you know he’s interested in you.

There’s a good chance that quite a few guys have been infatuated by you in the very first conversation.

And more often than not, there’s an even bigger chance that you didn’t really realize that a guy was chatting you up.

Do you want to know the signs of attraction that all guys give away, subtly or directly, each time they like a girl and are talking to her?

20 signs of attraction that don’t lie

Use these signs of attraction to figure out if a guy’s got more than just friends on his mind.

A signs or two is excusable, but the more the signs that crop up, the bigger the chance that he’s smitten by you.

#1 He gets personal. Does he ask you personal questions in the very first conversation? If he does, there’s a big chance that he’s attracted to you and wants to make sure you’re available before he wears his heart on his sleeve. If he asks you about your boyfriend or anything overly personal on the relationship front on a first conversation, he’s definitely into you.

#2 He’s eager to please. Sometimes, a guy who likes you in the very first conversation may try too hard to please you. If he’s overly concerned about you and constantly asks you if you’re feeling fine or whether there’s something he can get for you or do for you, it’s a sure sign of a guy who’s smitten by you.

#3 He tries to touch you. A lot.  Every now and then, does he look for excuses to touch you? Does he hold on to a hug for longer than necessary or do his fingers linger on you more than required?

#4 He compliments you. Let’s face it, compliments are rather personal, especially if they’re personal in nature. Does this guy you’re speaking with for the first time compliment your dress or your smile? This guy wants to make it very clear that he’s falling for you.

#5 He can’t stop smiling. If you’re in the middle of a conversation with a guy and you catch him smiling and blushing a lot for no apparent reason, it’s probably because he’s wetting his pants in excitement just to talk to you.

#6 He ends any interruption quickly. Does this guy end any distractions like a phone call or an accidental bump into his friend on the street really fast? If he ignores everything else and focuses completely on you, he may want every second he spends with you to count.

#7 He’s mesmerized by you. When a guy’s infatuated by you, he can’t help but involuntarily stare deep into your eyes. If he gazes deeply or his eyes brighten up, he’s obviously really happy to talk to you.

#8 He wants your attention. Does he talk more when there are other guys around you, or does he indulge in antics just to get your attention? If a guy likes you and finds that you’re getting distracted by some other guy, he’ll try anything to win your attention back.

#9 He’s overprotective about you. Does he show off his protective streak when he’s with you? If he tries to look out for any danger in its own little ways, he’s trying to subconsciously let you know that he wants to be your protector!

#10 You share a lot of similarities. Does he agree with everything you say? Or does he excitedly nod his head each time you say you like something? A guy who likes you will intuitively try to find common grounds to prove that both of you are compatible.

#11 He asks when he can see you again. You may have just been introduced to this guy through a friend and it may be your first conversation. But if he ever does say “So… when am I gonna see you again…?” there’s a pretty big chance that he’s already knee deep in infatuation or love.

#12 He’s very friendly. Guys who get overfriendly on the very first conversation can seem creepy at times. But if a guy likes you, he’ll try his best to pretend like both of you are the best of friends just to get you to feel comfortable hanging out with him.

#13 He finds ways to bump into you again. Does he ask you what you’re up to over the weekend or the next day? If a guy asks you these kinds of questions in the first conversation, there’s a good chance he wants to bump in to you soon.

#14 He hints at your relationship status. Now all guys may not talk about your boyfriend or your relationship status directly. It’s obviously rude and personal, and they know that. But does he beat around the bush to coax answers out of you? Does he ask you about your recent vacations or the last few movies you've watched and with whom? These are subtle and discreet ways to bring any boyfriends out of the closet.

#15 He drags the conversation or makes subtle plans. One of the biggest signs of attraction is a guy’s urge to stretch the conversation. Does he ask you to join him in the cafeteria or a coffee shop for a while since “both of you have a bit of time to spare”? If he looks for ways to stretch your first conversation, he’s definitely got something lovey in his mind.

#16 He looks for ways to stay in touch. Does he ask you for your phone number within a few minutes of talking to each other? He’s obviously pushing his luck. If he looks for ways to stay in touch via phone numbers or face book, he’s definitely interested in knowing more about you.

#17 He stays in touch. He gets in touch with you within a day or two, or drops a line on Facebook or a text just to say ‘hi’. While this is just a friendly gesture, it can border on a crush if he constantly tries to get in touch or leaves a message more than a few times a day.

#18 Aggressive competition. He gets aggressive or angry if another guy tries to make him look bad or pulls his leg in front of you.

#19 He impresses you with his details. He slips in details about himself and his achievements every now and then, until he thinks he’s impressed you. He may be discreet or even blatant, just as long as he can convince you that he’s a great guy.

#20 He makes it obvious that he’s single. If a guy makes it clear to you that he’s single in the very first conversation you have with him, it’s one of the biggest signs of attraction for a guy. Why would a guy tell you he doesn't have a girlfriend unless he wants you to fill that slot?

At times, a guy may tell you straight out that he likes you. But if you’re looking for subtle signs of attraction in a first conversation, especially when the guy doesn't make any move, these 20 signs are all you need and more.

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Dealing with your Man’s Flirty Friend

Does your boyfriend have a girl pal who just can’t keep her hands off him? Find out how to deal with your man’s flirty friend and keep her away.

Is your boyfriend’s best friend a girl?

Click here to read the introduction and understand what really goes on in his girl best friend’s mind in does your boyfriend have a girl best friend?

Getting used to the fact that your boyfriend has a girl best friend is hard enough.

But having to deal with your man’s flirty friend is just annoyingly frustrating, especially if your boyfriend doesn't really do anything to stop his friend from pawing him.

If you’re having a hard time getting the message through your man’s thick skull, here are a few tried and tested ways to handle your man’s flirty friend and keep her away.

Are you waiting for the flirty friend to leave?

You may have just sat there, waiting for the bad tidings to pass, and the sun to take a nice peek out of the gloomy clouds, and evaporate this monster of a friend away from his life.

But you know it, the way things are shaping up, you don’t ever think it will happen. So what do you do? Well, you should go to war!

Ready your battle stations and prepare your ammo and weapons. Locate the weakest section and drop your entire stock of nukes and breach the barrier! You don’t dig, girlie? No worries.

What I mean is that you need to fight a war to win it, and to win it, you need to strategy and have a plan of action. You want to know your greatest strength? It’s the fact that he’s your man and not her man! So why on earth do you have to bob quietly like a rubber duck and be bothered by this friend of his?

Since you know for sure that there’s no way a straight talk with your man will help you, try going the other way around. The first step is to make your man feel really awkward around her. It’s not that he doesn't feel it already, but the only issue is that he likes the sexual awkwardness. But just give him an opportunity to realize how uncomfortable things can get when she comes around and you can bring the ball into your court. Now really, go all out and go to war.

Adding your man to her crush list

The next time she kisses him like a woodpecker or does something just as uncomfortable, use it to your advantage. After this slutty friend of his leaves the both of you alone and goes away, take a trip to the ladies room, especially after a few other girls go in. Come back with a sad face, and tell him that you overheard the girls in the ladies room talking about your man being such a perverted two timer, who didn't care about your feelings.

Just tell him that you feels awkward when other girls speak like this all the time. Basically, instead of straight out ranting, prick his little heart with guilt.

Let him know that all your friends think that he has a big crush on that girl pal of his, because of the way he tries making out with that girl all the time! He may object and try to retaliate, but just lay off it by saying it’s alright, and that you’re not hurt anyway. And trust me, he will try doing something about it because all men always want all women in the world to think highly of them. So if your friends and other women around think he’s annoying, he’ll do whatever it takes to make them think highly of him.

Sneak a bit of info to him and tell him that you’re sure his friend has a crush on him. And how do you know that? Obviously, you’re a girl and you know it by the way she behaves around him.

Mention it as a compliment, but make him feel uncomfortable by asking things like how he would feel if your best male friend would try fondling you all the time? But hit your man with the fact that this friend of his has more than just ‘friendship’ written over her when it comes to him.

Beating the bitch

Don’t you just wish you could clobber her and hurt her really bad? You can, but it’s better done where it hurts. Your man is just that, he’s your man. So the next time she comes around, just snuggle up to him closer and compliment him about a few things he did recently, things only you know about.

Trust me, it’s worth it to see that look on his face after you’re done talking with another hottie. Or you could also get real friendly and touchy-feely with another male friend of yours when you bump in to him. If he does mention anything like you trying to get back at him, just innocently tell him that he seemed to be having such a good time with her, that you really didn't think he’d be bothered.

These moves are guaranteed to have a positive effect for you, especially if you instantly lose your icy self each time his slutty friend goes away.

He may have a hard time figuring it out with his pea sized brain, but eventually he’d realize that your icy split personality shows up only when he behaves like he’s in a petting zoo around that little bitch friend of his.

Another really important thing you should know here, never ever let him know that you’re doing all this to get back at him even if things get better for you later. He may just tell his ‘best’ friend all about it. And I don’t think you’d be able take his friendly confessions very well.

Winning the game

She may be grinning widely and floating on a high each time she gets to know through your boyfriend that you've thrown a tantrum over her. But once she sees that her friendly guy is actually making a strong effort to stay away from her (which is mostly because he gets jealous when you speak to another hottie or pet your male pals), she would go mad!

There she was, having your man wrapped around her finger all this time, and now she would know she’s losing her grip on him.

What can I say, I guess it’s time for you to gloat in happiness. Be extra-friendly to her, and grin a giddily happy smile each time he’s wrapped in your arms instead of hers. Never ever show your frustrations out in front of her. That would just make her happy. Instead, use her ploy on another guy, in person or on phone, when your man and his flirty friend are together. There’s no chance of losing a game when you get the jealousy in your man aroused!

Each time she holds your guy’s hand, just pat it away and tell her jokingly, “hey, do you have a crush on him?” or smile and say something like “I hope you don’t hate me, you seem to have such a big crush on my man”, and laugh out loud!

She wouldn't know what to say, especially when you make it sound like a joke. Your man may find it funny, but she’d know what you’re up to. Let her know that you know her game, and let her hate you because you’re winning. Getting her to hate you may be hard, but once you do, boy, the world can seem oh-so-nice!

You could be on a winning streak, but make sure you've still got a firm hold on your man, or he may just stray again. She is his friend, you know.

It’s not so easy to just split them up, but as long as you can get him to behave, who cares. And as long as her little heart is burning with frustration, the world is such a pretty place, isn't it?

But then again, if you’re having a hard time dealing with his girl best friend, perhaps, you should consider seeing someone else or try having a happy relationship with a guy who isn't attached at the hip to his girl best friend.

[Read: Signs of an annoying boyfriend]

[Read: Is he really the one for you?]

But even if your man does have a girl best friend, you do know what to do right? Get back at her and do it well. After all, dealing with your man’s flirty friend can be so much fun when you’re winning!

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Why Are Women So Fickle in Love?

Do women create confusions in their love lives or is the world just unjust to them? Jake Butler shares his opinion on why women are so fickle in love.

Through many years of my dating life, if there’s one thing I've noticed more often than others, it’s how fickle women in love are.

Now it’s not just my life I’m talking about, it’s all around me.

Women love fairy tales, chick flicks and romance in their lives. But yet, they create such messy Gordian knots of love that they end up hurting others and themselves along the way.

Men and their love life

Looking into a man’s mind, he doesn't really ask for much.

Even the greatest of guys are rather happy with their relationship. They spend evenings and weekends together with their girlfriend, and life is just perfect.

If there’s ever a circumstance of infidelity among men, in almost all cases, men cheat for two reasons.

They cheat using their bigger head, when they’re frustrated with their girlfriend for some reason or the other.

Or they cheat with their little head when they meet an attractive woman and the chemistry is intense.

It’s easy to understand a man’s mind. We like keeping it simple and easy. Men may not be gifted with the complex creative dimensions in love that women can boast of, but men are pretty content with what goes on in their mind.

And that makes it really easy for men to get caught with their pants around their ankles. All because men are too darn predictable.

Women, on the other hand, are a lot more complex to understand and predict. But their lives are way more complicated anyways!

Why are women so fickle in love?

I was in college when I got into a serious relationship for the first time. The relationship lasted about a year, but that ride of love was the craziest I've even been in, and I've still not been able to understand that relationship.

She was my first girlfriend and I was her first boyfriend. We started dating and exploring all that love had to offer within the first few months. We were happy, until she met a new group of friends. Soon she started partying hard, would avoid me more often, and would spend more time with her new friends and other new guys she would meet.

A few months later, she started getting cranky and moody, would party all night long with her new friends and pretty much behave like a confused idiot the next day!

One day, she would kiss me tenderly and say I’m the nicest guy on earth and she’s lucky to have me. Another day, she would treat me indifferently. And on some other days, she’d tell me she needs to stay away from me because she was going through some crap in her life. [Read: What to do when you like a friend]

Whew! I just couldn’t understand what the heck was up with her. Eventually, we ended up breaking up and making up every other day. She would break up with me, and come running back into my arms a few days later saying how much she needed me and how wrong she was to let me go. But all said and done, a confusing year later, I had to walk away for good. She was causing more damage to me than good. [Read:How to know if it is love or lust]

She pursued me on and off for a few months, but I knew the cycle pretty well to fall back into that trap of confusions. But to this day, I can’t understand why she just couldn't make up her mind about what kind of a life she really wanted! I mean, really, if she really wants to party and meet new guys and get Ziggy with them, stick to your plan and leave me out of your life!

Was that immaturity or was that a woman’s complex love brain going into overdrive?

Do women think of love as an all-you-can-eat buffet?

Now I’m not generalizing that all women are fickle in love. But there are a lot more fickle-in-love women out there than there are men who think along those lines. And any smooth talking man who gets the attention of women can vouch for this. And a smart Casanova knows how easy it is to play to a woman’s emotions and trick her into an easy fling!

It’s far easier to convince a woman that she’s in a bad relationship than it is to convince a man of the same. Men listen to their own feelings, women listen to everything else but their feelings. They listen to other people’s feelings.

Tell a girl she deserves someone better than her boyfriend, and she’ll think about it. Tell a guy he deserves someone better than his girlfriend, and he’ll just nod his head and forget about it!

The main problem, at least from my perspective, is that women are actually far more shallow when it comes to love than men. Women like the attention and care that their boyfriend gives them. And as the months or years pass, and some other charming smooth talker gives them a little more attention and adds a few long phone conversations and extravagant gifts into the recipe, they can’t help but feel a surge of affection towards this new guy who makes them feel all warm, fuzzy and happy inside. [Read: Flirty text messages]

They like having their steady boyfriend, but at the same time, they really don’t want to miss out on the affection and the attention of the new charming guy! Now, several women may deny this, but put them in a similar situation and they’ll surprise themselves. Women are suckers for affection. If any smooth guy knows how to strike when the iron is hot, it’s pretty hard for a girl to resist his charm.

Really, if that isn't an all-you-can-eat buffet kind of love, what is?

Are women more prone to having affairs than men?

Women don’t like giving a name to these kinds of special relationships. They recognize the fuzzy feelings, the sexual thoughts in bed, and the affection they feel for someone else, but they’ll never give this strange relationship a real name. By calling it an affair, they’re accepting that they’re cheating, either emotionally or physically. And they would never want to stoop that low. Instead, it’s so much simpler to just have a happy time with their own boyfriend and have a few special moments with someone else too, without worrying about what to call the relationship.

Fickle love and the confusions

Most women may not realize this, but you can’t really be in love with two people or try to hog the affection of two men, unless you’re in a happy menage a trios.

If you’re being secretive about it, at some point, you’re going to start comparing them with each other. And that starts all the confusions and the pain. And the worst part of all this, your partner will experience the same pain because you can’t make up your mind, and he can’t understand why you’re being so moody. [Read: Is he the one for you?]

And even when you make up your mind and decide that one man is better and more affectionate than the other, a week later or after a little fight, you’re bound to change your mind again. And at other times, you may have confusing conflicts every few hours. So why not just make up your mind and stick to it “for better or for worse”?

Is it a woman’s fault?

Now we can’t entirely blame women for this behavior. I just think it’s a trait in women that just can’t change. They always think they deserve better than the guy they’re with at any point of time. They assume they’re way better and can get any better guy if they ever wanted, and when a presumably better guy walks into their lives and showers them with affection, their instincts kick in and it reassures them that they deserve better than their own boyfriend.

So why are women so fickle in love? Perhaps, women do love a lot of drama in their lives. And being fickle in love is just one small part of the drama they constantly crave for that much needed satisfying and troubled sleep at night.

The author, Jake Butler, is a serial dater and chivalrous stealer of girlfriends, and looks forward to changing his ways when he meets a woman who can incomparably be happy with him. Which he claims, will never happen!

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Do Girls Like Shy Guys Who Don’t Make A Bold Move?

Do girls like shy guys or confident guys? Find out what girls want in a shy guy and what you can do to be the perfect guy for the girl you like.

Shy guys are loveable.

And almost all girls feel safe, and dare I say it, even confident around them.

Shy guys are every girl’s dream conversationalist.

They hardly talk, and they’re really good at just listening to the girl.

Girls like that.

We definitely love a cute shy guy who can just watch us, smile to himself and listen to everything we have to say.

[Read: How to make a girl like you without asking her out]

Do girls like shy guys?

Girls definitely like a shy guy.

But almost always, girls fall for a shy guy when they’re still in school or college, and definitely not in a workplace.

Girls get crushes on cute shy guys because they’re so mysterious and different from all the other guys who try to behave like bold smooth talkers.

But as soon as a great guy starts to pursue a girl, she forgets about the shy guy because, well, he’s just not doing anything to reciprocate.

If you’re a shy guy, learn to use the opportunity of first impressions.

Girls are intrigued by a shy guy. And even the smallest gesture by a shy guy can make a huge difference to a girl, especially if she likes him already.

When are shy guys better than confident guys?

# Shy guys make better friends. They’re good listeners and they’re very considerate. But you obviously don’t want to be her friend, so this isn't a good sign. If you want to date a girl, you need to let her know that!

# Shy guys make better sex buddies. Girls feel powerful around shy guys. Get drunk with a girl and let her have her way with you and she’ll definitely like it. And if you’re just looking for a fling thing, you’d definitely like it too!

# Girls definitely like a guy who’s shy at first but opens up after a few conversations. They definitely don’t like a guy who’s shy in the first conversation and shy after that too. Now almost all the time, even the shyest of guys open up after a couple of conversations, so you don’t have to worry there.

What do girls want in a great guy?

Now shy guys have a lot of good sides to them. They’re more sensitive and caring and girls like their company. But to fall for a guy, there are three things that a girl needs in a boyfriend material.

#1 A guy who can protect her

#2 A guy she can depend on

#3 A guy who can pursue her

Now these three things that every girl needs may seem simple, but this is where almost every shy guy fails. Do you realistically think you have the bold presence of a guy who can protect the girl from any trouble when she’s with you? Do you think she can depend on you to sort any issue out for her? And if you’re so shy that you can’t even have a conversation with her, can you really woo her and impress her by pursuing her when she’s playing hard to get?

Well, shy guys fail miserably in all three requirements. And that’s where a perfect shy guy who is every girl’s dream loses a great girl and ends up becoming her friend instead of her boyfriend.

The bad side of a shy guy that’ll put off a girl

Girls have no problems with a shy guy. But these bad traits of a shy guy can put off anyone, not just a girl you like. [Read: 10 biggest dating turn offs for girls]

#1 The problem with shy guys is that they have no balls. They can’t make a stand for anything. They’d rather stand in the sidelines than take center stage.

#2 Shy guys are very accommodating and give in to any problem just to avoid any kind of conflict. Even if anyone insults them, they’d pretend like they’re not affected by it when in reality they’d be furious inside their shy heads.

#3 Shy guys would rather give up than fight. And they think they’re peace loving when they’re just too chicken hearted in reality.

#4 They have to be peeled back, layer by layer. It takes too much time for a girl to get to know a shy guy. When great girls can get any guy they want, would a girl really be interested in counseling you and trying to make you a better man when they can be pampered and treated like a queen by any bold guy they want?

#5 Shy guys don’t have confidence around other people, especially other guys. If another guy tried to flirt with your girlfriend, would you have the courage to make a stand and put the other guy in place? If you can’t even stand up for yourself, how can you stand up for the girl in your arms?

How to turn your shyness into an advantage

Your shyness could create a lot of difficulties for you, especially when it comes to dating a great girl. But here are a few immediate tips you could use to tilt the shyness to your advantage.

#1 Become a quiet guy. Turn your shyness into confidence. Don’t let anyone think you’re shy. Instead make it appear like you’re just a quiet guy who likes his own space.

#2 Make it appear like you’re bold. Talk less, but don’t let anyone know your heart’s beating like a hummingbird inside. Avoid being nervous and jittery, instead reply in short sentences that make you appear confident.

#3 Brave up and talk to her. This is inevitable. You need to man up and talk to her at least once. Get introduced through a friend if you have to. After that, woo her through texts and messages. Pursue the girl silently by avoiding long conversations face to face at the beginning and focus all your attention on your texts and gifts.

#4 Walk with a purpose. Shy guys can actually come off as extremely confident as long as they move purposefully and appear composed. Walk tall, and don’t bother trying to get anyone’s attention but that one girl who matters.

#5 Don’t tell the girl that you’re a shy guy. Telling a girl that you’re shy can work against your favor. She’ll immediately get confident and behave aloof. By pretending to be a quiet guy, you can appear mysterious and more appealing to any girl.

The easy and better way out – Don’t be the shy guy

It’s not easy being a shy guy. I was a shy girl once too and I know how hard it can be to change. But the only way to have better opportunities in life is by trying hard to eliminate that shy side of yours.

All of us have been shy guys and shy girls at some point of time. Some lose that trait in their childhood while others lose it in their teens. The earlier you realize the need to change, the faster you can become a better man who can feel confident in his own shoes.

Here are five steps that can help you lose the shy guy tag with a bit of effort.

#1 Open up to people. Make an effort to open up early to people. What’s the point in waiting for a few meetings to be friendly? Shy guys are cute friends, and not cute boyfriends. A shy guy may seem cute in his teens, but anything beyond that and you’d end up being isolated by everyone.

#3 Get introduced to girls. Talk to girls even if you’re not interested in dating them. Sometimes, you need a few warm up lessons by talking to girls you’re not interested in to feel more confident about your own abilities and prepare yourself for the girl you’re going to fall in love with.

#3 Don’t be afraid of being judged. Make new friends. Most shy guys avoid opening up to people because they assume they have nothing important to add. Or they stay quiet because they assume they’ll appear dumb if they speak too much. Don’t be afraid to reveal who you really are. You may be shy, but you’re still a great guy who can share so much with his friends and the world.

#4 Girls are just like you. Only they have lady parts. Remember that girls are a part of the human species too. They like guys just as much as you like girls. They want to make a good impression on you just as much as you want to make an impression on them. Some girls may have more confidence, but that doesn't mean you won’t be more confident with a few tries.

#5 Make a few mistakes and learn from it. The dumbest shy guys are the ones who know they’re shy and yet don’t do anything to open up. They’re afraid of failure and rejection and end up hiding in their own little world and bitch about how unfair the world is to them. Don’t be that guy. It’s alright to fall a few times before you start walking. It’s alright to get rejected a few times before you meet the perfect girl too!

So do girls like shy guys? Of course, they do, just as long as the guy can be a confident shy guy. But if you can’t be that guy, just follow these tips and you’ll definitely turn over a new leaf and get any girl you like with a little effort.

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Are Good Looking Girls Mean or Nice?

Are good looking girls mean to some guys? Or are they actually nicer than other girls? Here’s a good looking girl’s answer to that big question.

There are a lot of misconceptions about good looking girls out there.

Now they’re not all wrong.

But more often than not, they are more of a stereotype than anything else.

Have you ever heard the line that good looking girls are mean and arrogant?

Now is that all true?

I definitely don’t think so.

I’m a girl who could be considered good looking, and I’d like to share my thoughts with others.

But please don’t think me conceited.

I’m only trying to strike a conversation.

The mean good looking girls

There are a lot of mean girls out there, and perhaps a few good looking mean girls too.

But that doesn't mean all good looking girls are mean.

Here are a few reasons why some good looking girls are mean.

#1 They’re conceited. It’s true, a few good looking girls are completely full of themselves.

They think they’re a gift to mankind or something, and believe they need to be treated better than everyone else. They’re the annoying kind of good looking girls, and definitely, the shallow ones too.
#2 They like the attention. Almost all good looking girls know they get attention all the time. They know they’re hot stuff and they intend to use their looks at every possible instance to get something favorable.

It may be to date someone rich and have a sugar daddy, or it may be something to do with getting a better job. The attention works for them and they fully use it to their advantage.

#3 They’re intentionally mean. Some good looking girls are just terribly mean. I've seen many girls bat their eyelids at a guy and make him approach them only to spurn him away! It’s terrible and annoying, and these are the kind of girls that give good looking girls a bad name.

But this is more like the exception than the rule. All good looking girls are not heartless skunks whose only sole means of pleasure is chucking a wrecking ball at a guy’s heart.

Good looking girls are not intentionally mean

For a long time, I've seen just how misunderstood good looking girls are. No matter what a good looking girl does, it’s always bad. There’s just no way out. Here are a few reasons why good looking girls are assumed to be mean.

#1 Guys always exaggerate a good looking girl’s rejection to feel better about themselves.

#2 Too many guys hit on good looking girls all the time, and they really don’t have the time to play nice to all the guys. What would you do if girls threw themselves at you all the time? You obviously can’t play nice to every girl you meet, especially if you know that you’re never going to be interested in that person.

#3 Guys are always mean to good looking girls. They expect a good looking girl to be snappy, so the guys go all out with their rude remarks. Additionally, a few guys get incredibly rude when they’re rejected. So a great looking girl’s always got to be on guard, or she’ll end up getting insulted by guys all the time.

#4 Cheesy pick up lines. How do you like your eggs in the morning… fried or fertilized? Really? How can a girl not get annoyed when she hears something like that? Most guys always use a pick up line when they strike up a conversation with a good looking girl like a pick up line makes them look cooler. But when a girl’s out with her friends, could it be possible that she’s just trying to have a nice time, not get her eggs picked?!

People love to see a good looking girl punished

Sometimes, petty jealously can make people really mean. When a good looking girl gets a great guy, everyone else just hopes for her to get dumped or cheated on.

And almost always, everyone wants the good looking girl to date a guy who would treat her like crap just so she can feel their pain. This is especially true for guys who get rejected often. But really, why? What have good looking girls ever done to you? Well, yes, maybe some girl rejected you. But why stereotype all good looking girls into evil witches?

Guys want a girl who’s beautiful but doesn't know it

Isn't that unfair? I've had a few guys tell me this line with a mean grin, to spite me or be frank, I really can’t tell.

But guys, you want the best girl in the world when clearly, you’re not the best guy in the world yet. You want a confused girl who’s insecure and timid, one who isn't aware of her own beauty. Why is that? So you can feel good about yourself?

Isn't that mean? You want the best of something without giving your best back to her. And at the same time, when a good looking girl wants a great guy, everyone thinks the girl’s a bitch, or that she’s shallow. It’s just so unfair.

Who are the real mean girls?

The real mean girls are the ones who constantly want attention or are the ones who think they’re really good looking when they really aren't. They act snotty and constantly want attention because somewhere deep down, they’re all insecure because they’re not sure if they’re pretty.

And almost always, a good looking girl’s not so good looking friend is usually the mean one. She tries to use her good looking friend’s attractiveness to get attention and treat guys badly because she wants to get even with all the guys who didn't give her attention. I may sound rude and full of myself, but it’s true. People get mean when they want to inflict pain on someone else for their own shortcomings.

I know a lot of models and good looking guys and girls, and I can assure you, they are the nicest and sweetest people in the world. Just don’t try hitting on them or taking them to bed at hello. Get to know them as a friend first. You’ll see how nice good looking people really are. They’re just like every other nice person in the world.

Good looking girls are human too

Contrary to popular belief, good looking girls are just like everyone else. They have a heart that hurts and wants true love too. Here are a few things about good looking girls that many guys don’t give a thought about.

#1 They want to be appreciated too. It’s true, they love romance and little skips of joy like every other girl out there. But please, be a great guy who’s sweet and charming.

#2 They’re more than skin deep. Good looking girls want to be liked for who they are beyond their appearance. When a guy just stares at her without listening to her words, it’s insulting.

#3 They don’t like being constantly picked up. Good looking girls don’t want to be hit on or stared at all the time. They’re not animals at a zoo. Why do guys think good looking girls are just meant to be picked up?

#4 Screw the prejudice. Really, good looking girls aren't always mean. They know their worth, and they appreciate a guy who knows to behave around them and treat them as a person. And they’re completely human and have feelings just like all other girls. [Read: 10 biggest dating turn offs for girls]

Most good looking girls are nicer than other girls

Almost all the time, most good looking girls are nicer than average looking girls. Good looking girls need to try harder to prove that they’re not stuck up or full of themselves.

An average looking girl sometimes throws a hussy fit just to feel pampered. When she does that, everyone else thinks she’s being cute. But when a good looking girl does the same thing, she’s being bitchy. When a great looking girl asks a guy for a favor like getting dropped home, I see eyes rolling and hear gasps of exasperation. Everyone thinks she’s taking advantage of a guy. But when any other girl does that, they think she’s being a good friend. Isn't that unfair?

And on another note, good looking girls always need to work harder to achieve anything. Whatever we achieve in life, people think we got it off easy. Yes, it’s true, guys are nicer to good looking girls. But not all of them. Almost all guys just think the world’s spinning in our favor because we’re good looking girls. And that’s just not true.

Debunking the stereotype

Really, good looking girls have a heart too. Just for once, try to see the world through our eyes. How would you feel if every guy you get introduced to looks at your breasts while speaking to you and stares at your ass when you walk away? Would you feel like a person or an object? [Read: Kinds of men who stare at women]

Some girls are mean and annoying, true, but as a guy, you can’t just round up all the good looking girls and brand them as annoying and mean. [Read: Reasons behind why guys like breasts like crazy]

The next time you meet a good looking girl, treat her as a person. Have a stimulating intellectual conversation and let her know that you’re seeing her as more than just someone to sleep with. And when you do that, you may just realize that a good looking girl isn’t just skin deep. And she’ll really appreciate you for making her feel like a person too.

So are good looking girls really mean? I've said my part, but the truth is still out there for you to find out.

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