Relationships can get complicated for a lot of reasons, big and frivolous. Find out how to deal with a complicated relationship the right way.
A perfect relationship can turn into a complicated one in no time, and one lover can’t really predict it without listening to the confusions in the other partner’s mind.
But in almost all cases, a complicated relationship is a one sided love affair where one person wants to hold on while the other person just wants to let go or go with someone else.
So are you in a complicated relationship?
Understanding how to deal with a complicated relationship is simple if you can see the facts straight.
Why is your relationship complicated in the first place?
Learning to see the problem in clear light is the first step to solving any relationship issue.
Almost all the time, people in a complicated relationship fail to see the problem because they’re either not interested in acknowledging a problem or too clouded by emotions to accept reality.
Dealing with a complicated relationship
While a complicated relationship status on face book may seem like a cool thing to show off, a complicated relationship is heartbreaking and painful to experience when you’re alone and wondering about what really is happening in your love life.
Reasons for complicated relationships
Complicated relationships can emerge for a lot of reasons, all the way from falling out of love, falling in love with someone else, a bitter fight, a piercing remark, to confused affairs like bed buddies and relationships where one person is using the other.
If you’re on the receiving end of a complicated relationship, don’t try to solve the complication just yet.
Instead, try to find out what really bothers you and how you intend to deal with it. Complicated relationships almost always never have a happy ending, especially if the love is one sided. And if it’s a crush that you have in mind, that’s definitely not a complicated relationship. It’s just a crush. [Read: Understanding unrequited love]
Try to end the complication
No complication in a relationship is ever similar. So you’ll have to create your own ways to working with it and evening out the complication.
In a long term relationship, complications could arise when your partner falls in love with someone else or starts losing interest in you as a partner potential. On the other hand, in a shorter relationship, the novelty of the new relationship may have worn off or your date may just not want to go out with you anymore for several reasons. So what do you intend to do about it?
Speak to your partner
The easiest way to solve any complicated relationship is by talking about it with your partner. You may find it easier to live in denial and avoid confronting the situation. But even if you have to talk to your partner at the cost of losing a relationship or ending it altogether, do it. Talk to your partner.
In most complicated relationships, one partner may be too much of a coward to end a relationship and may find it easier to avoid a partner and hope they get the hint. While you may be blissfully trying to deal with your complicated relationship status, your partner may have moved on with someone else.
When you’re stuck in a complicated relationship, no matter how much it hurts to confront the complication, muster up the strength to face it. By doing that, you’d at least know where the relationship is heading instead of groping in the dark.
Complicated relationships that just can’t work
If you find yourself in a relationship where your partner constantly cheats on you or tells you they don’t want to be with you anymore but come back into your arms every now and then, or if your partner ignores you, it’s a definite sign that the relationship is heading nowhere. Your partner may just be trying to look for someone else to go out with and may be using you until they find someone else. Or they may be too much of a coward to break up with you.
If you can’t end a complication with conversations and assurances, perhaps both of you are just not meant to be.
Are you ready for a fresh start?
Sometimes, it’s easier to end a relationship and walk away especially if there are way too many complications involved. But if you really do love your partner and are willing to work on the relationship again, take a chance.
But you have to remember that complicated relationships almost always never work. When you’re the one stuck in the painful end of a complicated relationship, it only means that your partner is using you or is just too selfish to care about anyone but themselves.
Walk out of a complicated relationship if you’re unable to work the differences and sort the complication. It may hurt a while, but no matter how much it hurts, it can never hurt more than how you feel right now, during every single day of your complicated life. By ending it, you’d at least be able to remove the painful complication from your life.
Heartbreaks can always be healed with time, but complications only increase with time, remember that.
So do you still want to know how to deal with a complicated relationship? But you know what to do already, don’t you? No matter how unique your complication is, there’s only one way to sort it all out. Confront it.
Shubham Gupta
