Public Display of Affection

We've all indulged in a bit of public display of affection at some point. But how much public affection is too much? And where does it cross the line? The Super Fella explores the word of public display of affection and his experiences with it.

Public display of affection is common, and even inevitable.

It is quite difficult for two frisky lovers to keep their hands off each other.

But what about the people around them?

Have you ever had an awesome or an annoying experience with public display of affection? I've had my share of PDA and I’ve seen a lot of public display too.

What is public display of affection?

Public display of affection or PDA as they are called, is the act of two people indulging in an intimate act in public.

It could be a couple kissing or two girls holding hands, pretty much anything that displays affection between two people.

But when one uses the term “public display of affection”, it’s usually considered to be an act that is rather physical in nature.

No one really knows what people thought of PDA in the old days. But today, public display of affection is something that most couples indulge in, at least in the beginning of their days of physical exploration and discovery.

Why do couples indulge in public display of affection?

Why do couples indulge in a bout of wild making out in front of others when they can find a room or a backseat in some isolated parking lot? Cheryl, 23, says “I love PDA. There’s something about them that makes me feel so good. I’m not trying to do that just to show off, but it’s exciting to make out in parties when there are others around.”

Each of them have their own reason to give their hands and tongues some exercise in public, but when we look through the most common reasons, you’ll find that most young lovers indulge in public display of affection because they find it exciting and it turns them on a lot more than the regular kiss in solitary confinement.

My public experience with public display of affection

We've all been there at least once in our lives, we wanted to watch this great movie that we've been waiting to watch for weeks, and we finally get the time and the ticket at the same time. Whoopee!

But then the inevitable happens. A cooing couple walk into the row ahead of you and sit down quietly. It’s all pretty and the couple look into each other’s eyes every now and then. The girl slowly places her head on his shoulders and he gently strokes her hair.

Awww… warm and sappy. They look so sweet.

He kisses her forehead and she gushes. She gives a peck on his cheek and he grins. Now you align your head strategically in between their two faces so you can watch the movie, but they seem to be moving constantly.

Half an hour passes, and then the intermission comes and goes. Beyond that point, all you can see is each of them coiling and uncoiling with affection every now and then, and you get to watch them exchanging coke, saliva, and any other bodily fluids that is comfortably permissible in the movie hall.

It’s pretty hard to figure what you want to watch, your long awaited chick flick or the live public display of affection romp in the front row. The last time I remember being in a situation like this, I chose the live public display. I could always watch the movie legally on DVD, but I can’t say the same about these horny amateurs, can I?

People that hate public display of affection

Can anyone hate PDA? Yes! Of course, they can definitely hate it. A person who thinks public display of affection is sweet can also hate it, and hate it bad. You see, PDA is extremely subjective and relative. If you’re watching a movie, and a bit of love and action in the front row, only to find out that it’s your boyfriend with the girl you hate, you will definitely detest public display of affection.

If you’re taking a walk in the park and find your daughter kissing a guy in the romantic setting of the potted plants, you would definitely hate PDA.

Well, you’re probably going to kill the guy and go to jail too, which will make your spouse hate public display of affection. So you see, there can be several reasons to hate this show of love in public.

And it can also start a vicious chain of public display of affection haters, and they would only breed more haters, and then some more. You can picture this, right? Or just go watch “dawn of the dead” or “land of the dead”, or whatever shows you a horde of mindless zombies who attack the naked women and the dorky guy in their bedrooms! That will help you understand what I mean.

As much as we want people to accept that babies are not dropped by the swans at our doorsteps, moral brigades and snotty neighbors smirk or stare dirty when it comes to PDA. So why do you hate PDA? Wait, I know, you have an ugly partner!

All of  us know about making out, or want to know about making out. But yet we pretend like getting physical with someone is such a big deal.

If you stop the guy from kissing the girl in a movie theater, they’ll stop watching movies and stay back at home so the guy can slip his hand under the girl’s shirt. So whose loss is that? You don’t get to see some action, and hell, they’re doing more naughty stuff in the room!

Now how much is really too much?

As much as I’m trying to say public display of affection is good, I’m pretty sure I would hate them at some point of my life. But then again, maybe not!

But in any case, there are a few things that should not be exceeded in PDA. This guide on public display of affection etiquette should help you understand more about it. No one wants to see any flashing of well concealed regions nor do we want to see anything gross.

If you really want to indulge in PDA, then make sure you don’t make anyone around you feel uncomfortable. Grinding and groping may be good in clubs, and kissing might be acceptable at airports and friends’ places. But in parks, I’d suggest holding hands and maybe a small kiss on the lips. Nothing more than that.

You don’t want some guy to hide in the bushes behind you and do some ‘funny’ things with himself while watching you, do you?

If you want to indulge in something raunchier, and really want to show off, then I’d suggest you go over to a friend’s place and try your luck. Or you could even do it in your room. One last thing I want to remind you again about public display of affection is that it’s fine as long as the people around you are comfortable, or perhaps even happy.

If not, then you’re doing the wrong thing at the wrong place. Just use your head and have fun with your public display of affection, but at no one else’s displeasure or cost.

There’s a lot more to public display of affection than just a couple making out for attention. We’re just warming up on the conversation.

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Making Out with Truth or Dare

When was the last time you played the game? And how naughty did you get? Truth or Dare can be fun, but the carnal overtones can also land you in a lot of trouble.

Click here to read the introduction: Truth or Dare – The Carnal Truth in the Game

You have to make a plan about what and who you want to make out with before you start and you need to prep yourself with good dares and truths.

Do not play this game without whipped cream. It is the most important accessory you’ll need. You will be amazed when you see how turned on a person can get just by licking whipped cream, preferably off someone else if you can manage it. Dare your friend to go into a room with someone for five minutes and see what happens. If they don’t come out, you have another person to get cozy with.

Things Can Go Wrong

How open is your relationship with your partner? Imagine a scenario where you’re dared to kiss this other guy in the room and he’s someone you had a little crush on. Worse, your boyfriend’s also in the room.

You go up, kiss this guy and it lingers. You can’t help it. He’s kissing you and you open up to him, your lips lock, your tongues touch. It’s the best thing that’s happened to you. You can’t stop. What the heck, you don’t want to.

The guy starts feeling you, you don’t stop him. You love it. Everyone cheers, and when you finish, you’re flushed. You turn to look at your boyfriend and he’s looking out at the door and trying to light a cigarette. Accept it, you’re screwed! It can go wrong for the guys too. You keep sending out dares for everyone to do things that exist only in dark fantasies and now it’s your turn to do the same. You want to and you've dream about this a zillion times. You assume that your girlfriend will be okay with you making out with another girl just because she just sat on the lap of another man. But that usually never is the case.

The Next Morning

The next morning can be a haze, even if all goes well and you have traded secrets and partners for the night. Eyes are not met and everyone’s in a hurry to go home. Nothing is spoken about the night, and it all suddenly seems strange and totally unnecessary. Guilt sets in. Anger rules. You don’t admit you’re jealous. You may not be, but are you really happy with what you did?

You may say no, but come next weekend and it’ll probably be you who’s saying, “Let’s play Truth or Dare”. You or someone else who wants to make out with someone else!

Keeping it Clean

You can single-handed keep the game clean if you want. If you’re asked to feel someone’s balls, feel his eyeballs. Just be creative in all your dares. Go easy on the questions and soon all the carnal tension will leave the room and you can have a clean game of Truth or Dare, just like the old days.

Remember that ultimately the game steers along the way you want it to go. If you want to sleep with someone, you can make that happen. If you want an innocent game, you can make that happen too.

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Sexual Truth or Dare – The Adult Game

Truth or Dare was once a children’s game full of innocence, but today it’s something that’s completely different and used usually to lose all innocence. So what’s the real story behind a grown up game of sexual truth or dare?

Time was when the game Truth or Dare meant finding out who had crushes on whom, or making that annoying neighbor act like a monkey. Today, the game is used regularly for far more serious business, that of seduction and excitement, a game of adult truth or dare.

If you are ever invited to a sleepover at a friend’s place, and after a couple of drinks the game the Truth or Dare is suggested, in all probability it’s been planned.

Not that you mind, do you? But things can go wrong if you’re not forewarned about the full impact of the game as it is played today.

The game is played differently when played with new friends and when played with a close intimate group. But be cautioned if it’s happening after drinks and if there’s a group of guys and girls, because there’s bound to be seductive overtones.

Playing sexual truth or dare

You need to know who’s around you before you either suggest or agree to be a part of the game. If you have to suggest it, make sure you've spoken to everybody in the room at least once and do some serious evaluation about the comfort levels of every person before saying “Let’s play Truth or Dare”.

If somebody else suggests it, check to see if you feel the excitement running through you. This is unfamiliar territory. The excitement is caused out of anxiety over the unknown. Are you in a relationship with someone?

Ask yourself, if your partner will be okay if you played this with an outside group. If your partner is in the same room, make eye contact to see if things will be okay. If the signals are green, the rest is easy. Think of the worst you may have to do and remind yourself how far you’ll go, and where you’ll draw the line.

Avoiding embarrassment in the adult game

The worst that can happen is agreeing to play the game and then not going by it. It can kill the evening and it’ll be time for everyone to go home. It’s best to opt out of it by saying that you may need to leave early, so you don’t want to participate.

Tell your friends that you have to take a call and it’ll take a while, later hang by the bar and keep opting out. If you want to, that is. Remember, Truth or Dare ultimately turns out more about the dare than the truth. Few remember the ‘truths’ you may have uttered, unless you've touched a chord. But everyone will remember the girl who took her top off.

Getting Lucky

Truth or dare in many circles today is more about making out with someone. And in more cases than one, it’s about making out with someone without too much of a preamble like courting. In most cases the game starts slowly with gentle questions like “bow to the wittiest, kneel to the prettiest and kiss the one you love the best”.

But it doesn't stay there. Soon you’re showing your underwear, your bra, and doing lap dances. If you really have the intention of ending the party in bed, you need to do a lot more than just plan your questions and dares. You need to plan it well.

Now that you know the rules of sexual truth or dare, perhaps it’s time to continue reading about Making Out with Truth or Dare.

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Meeting the Parents for the First Time

Meeting the parents for the first time is every lover’s nightmare. It is nerve wracking, and the pressure to please and make a great first impression can make for some excruciating moments.

Meeting the parents for the first time is scary, but it really doesn't have to be.

Keep in mind that they too are eager to meet you and make you feel comfortable.

Use these pointers when you’re meeting the parents, and your very first meeting can turn out to be a happy and memorable moment for you and your prospective in-laws.

Meeting the parents for the first time

“I remember meeting my boyfriend’s family for the first time. His mum, dad, brother, sister and the dogs,” says Aaliyah.

“One of the frisky dogs jumped on me and knocked me down on the living room before my boyfriend had a chance to introduce me. So there I was on the floor with a large lab licking my face and the other dog trying to jump my leg. The indignity of it all!”

I’d like you to meet my parents. Gulp!

Meeting the parents for the first time can be more nerve-wracking than going on your first date.

“What if they don’t like me?” “What if I don’t like them?” “What if I say something wrong?”

Meeting your girlfriend’s or boyfriend’s parents for the first time is one of those occasions you dread. Depending upon your temperament, you could suffer anything from mild anxiety attacks to nausea at the impending meeting.

It’s as if the pressure of your entire life ahead lies on your head. And it gets worse and even scary as the meeting approaches.

Things to know before meeting the parents

The average family gathering doesn't have all the making of a Hollywood comedy. Sometimes, dealing with the parents can take on a surreal quality. The best way to boost their confidence and to avoid the dreaded lie detector test and other forms of big screen paternal torture is to ace the first meeting. A bit of effort, these seven tips and smarts with a blend of charm will set things just right to create a charming impression.

Do your homework

Try to find out as much as you can about your girlfriend’s or boyfriend’s parents before you go. Are they liberal or are they conservative? Do they like gardening? Does dad like firm handshakes? Do they hate smoking? Ask your partner about their passions and interests and also ask if there are any issues they are particularly stiff about, so you can prevent the whole foot-in-mouth syndrome.

Meeting the parents is similar to the first date you had with your loved one. You put on your best behavior. You feel overwhelmingly self-conscious and you’re totally unable to relax. This homework might just instill the right measure of confidence in you.

Meeting the parents outfit

Your “meeting the parents outfit” depends on the kind of couple they are. If they’re fun-loving and prefer a tee and jeans over a well-cut suit or a formal skirt on a Sunday out with friends, then casuals it is. If they’re not comfortable with dressing down on a first meeting, then wear a crisp tucked-in shirt or an elegant skirt than runs below the knees.

Dress smartly and neatly. No tight or baggy jeans, no sloppy sweat pants. Clean hair, ears, fingernails, and well pressed clothes. In short, correct dressing. Looks count!

Making a perfect impression when you meet the parents for the first time isn't easy, but with these simple tips to help you out, you should be able to charm your partner’s parents just the way they want to be charmed.

Manners when you meet the parents

Do you remember those things your grandma used to go on about? Well, use them.

A few P’s and Q’s will make a huge difference in the world of first impressions. Be polite, say “yes, please”, “thank you” and a lot of compliments along the way about the food, the place and the people. See if there’s anything you could do to assist in the kitchen or the garage, and offer to be of assistance when they get up to get something. 

These little acts of consideration linger in their happy thoughts. Don’t overdo it and try to pretend like you’re a programmed robot when you meet them. You may be nervous, but flirting outrageously with one or both of the parents is probably not the best way forward.

Talk to them, and project interest when you meet the parents. Your in-laws will like you more if you like them.

Managing your body language

Be alert, attentive and interested in your boyfriend’s or girlfriend’s parents by keeping your body language in check.

Listen em pathetically, lean forward and nod at appropriate times. Pick an easy topic for conversation, which will not get too heated. Avoid swearing and don’t talk too much about yourself. Don’t tap your foot or look at your watch, and certainly do not sit with your legs hanging wide open.

They may be testing you at times with unnecessary questions about your life, education and about the money you make, but don’t get rude in return. You don’t know where they stand in issues close to their heart.

Take a gift when you’re meeting the parents

A bottle of wine, a fruit basket or a bag of edible goodies is usually the best gift to take when you’re meeting the parents for the first time. But even a bunch of flowers will do just fine. But no matter what, never forget to take a gift.

Here is where the homework comes in handy. Be creative and handy and remember, anything homemade scores big. Further, try eating all or most of the food served to you. You don’t want to offend your lover’s parents.

Approval of the parents

It is normal to want to be popular with your prospective in-laws, but be open to the fact that you may not fit like a glove with them. Do not expect to build an instant bond with them, but instead try to help them feel at ease, with you opening the door for a warm encounter the next time you happen to get together.

Be yourself, assert your personality and do not fake it. Be careful though so your sweetie’s parents don’t take a dislike towards you in your very first encounter.

They may never accept you if that ever happens. And even if they do, it may take a long time. They are just as anxious as you are and will be thinking the same questions as you. They are, after all, losing their “little child” to you.

Be cautious when you’re meeting the parents

It’s just like in the movie, Meet the Parents, an ode to in-law worst case scenarios. The film takes a humorous look at the problems witnessed when two different families end up in the same living room, just because their children hooked up.

Needless to say, don’t overdo your sweet gestures and sweet talk, or you’ll just look desperate. Look at your lover now and then to take cues on your behavior.

But again, if you fall short, you’re on a one way ticket to the door. Therefore balance. You scared yet? You should be. You’re meeting the parents!

Meeting the parents for the first time can be terrifying, but instead of worrying about making the best impression, just be yourself. Your partner liked you for who you are, and big chances are, your partner’s parents will like you too.

Take it easy, be warm and remember these tips. Once you've got all these pointers in check, you’ll see that meeting the parents for the first time can actually be a memorable moment in your happy thoughts.

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Men Who Stare at Women

Staring at women is a fun hobby for most men, but seriously, what is it with men who stare at women? The Super Fella explains everything you need to know about the Stare, and how to stop a guy from doing just that.

Click Here to read the introduction: Why Do Guys Stare at Girls?

What’s the real reason behind why men stare at women?

Each time a woman walks past, most men just can’t stop staring at her.

A few men may be discreet, while a few perverts may go “strip mode”, but either ways, men who stare at women incessantly are just no good.

Understanding why men stare at women

For most of my life, I had never really figured that women get annoyed when men stare at them.

But I guess it does bother women, because I've heard the story of the “scary stares” from girl friends one too many times.

I for one, have never really experienced an ugly reverse stare from a woman, so you can forgive me for not figuring this out earlier.

But then, when men stare at women and the women don’t like it nor do they glance back, I really don’t think that qualifies for a flirtatious stare exchange.

But either ways, I don’t know what that stare could be called, so let’s just call it ‘the Stare’!

Men and staring at women

The last time I was out in a coffee shop with a girl pal of mine, I could sense that she was feeling quite uncomfortable, but she just shrugged it off when I asked her about it.

After a while, she told me about a guy who left the coffee shop just then. Apparently, he was doing ‘the stare’ thing with her! Ooh, it sounds creepy, doesn't it? Almost as bad as Grudge Part I, she told me.

I was quite surprised because an occasional stare is complimenting, if the guy’s presentable enough. But then, she tells me it doesn't matter how good the guy is, if it’s ‘the stare’ that he’s using, that’s just creepy and annoying.

To me, men who stare at women constantly sounded hilarious. To her, it was freaky. So that was my cue. I had to enlighten all women about ‘the stare’ and about men who stare at women. To blow the dust off the surface, ‘the stare’ isn't just an ‘I’m-so-shy-I’d-wet-my-pants-if-I-looked-twice’ kind of thing from a guy. It’s actually more like the stare that forces you to time travel back fifty thousand years and see a hairy ape-like man grunting and beating his chest! 

Now that I picture that, the hair on the back of my neck seems to stand up. I’m just being dramatic here, really, so I can relate to all the poor women who've had to put up with the knee buckling stare.

Men who stare at women and the way they think

So why do men stare at women really? First off, men stare because their eyes need action. Secondly, because they want to. Thirdly, because they can! However much it pisses off a woman, men stare at women and will continue to do so. Most men who have understood the fact that we live in the 21st century don’t stare hard at women, but men who haven’t yet figured that they’re way past the Stone Age still stare at women like they’re getting set for a mating ritual.

It’s those men you see, men who stare at women with such intensity that women would be confused whether the guy’s constipating or just trying to fart real bad. Now that’s the guy who has ‘the stare’ in his eyes. And that’s the guy you've got to have in your blind spot.

Now I’m the kind of guy who hates seeing a woman in a spot of trouble. I’m not a male chauvinistic pig, and I don’t mind sitting in the passenger seat of a car, while a woman’s driving, though the ride can be a bit freaky at times. And I’m the guy who stops the car and gets off to help, if a woman’s having a fight with a cab driver or fixing a flat tire. Women are sweet, but some men take their sweetness as a sign of vulnerability, which sucks. Okay, I’m digressing a wee bit too much.

Why do men stare at women instead of talking?

It’s all in the head, you see. When the man was still a boy, most other bigger boys and men told him that it’s not easy to talk with woman. The big men say this to cover up their own shortcomings with women. The smaller boys use this as an excuse to squirm out of making a move on a girl.

The point here is, the first thing that pops into a man’s mind when he wants to approach a woman is, “Will she insult me?” And with that one thought, a drum beat starts drumming away inside his head. And it just gets worse, as he gets closer to starting a conversation with a woman.

Most men hate that feeling of getting spurned by a woman, and they definitely hate that drumbeat that’s their heart as they approach women. So they just sit back and stare at women. It’s the next best alternative for a loser of a guy who’s so sure he’d be spurned if he’d ever make a move. So he just sits back, and devours as much of you as he possibly can without making himself feel uncomfortable. These guys are just losers anyways, and they’re the ones who end up with goats or animals to give them company in bed, unless one of the women he stares at, finds it exciting and falls right into his arms. [Read: Should a girl accept a drink from a stranger?]

Do men stare at all women?

All women. Definitely. Most women think men stare only at beautiful girls, petite girls, or girls with breasts that fill their shirts really well, but men who use ‘the stare’ don’t really give a damn. They just want attention back.

They want to stare right at you, and hope you’ll stare back. Of course, you’re going to be curious at first and give him a few glances out of curiosity. But these men take these little innocent glances as a sign of triumph. They think they’re on stage two of hooking up, now that they’re past the ‘stare, watch, and wait for reciprocation’ stage, and they try giving women that creepy smile along with ‘the stare’. This is when you’d feel like throwing up all over his annoying face.

Men who stare at women know you won’t really do anything about it, so they continue staring at women wherever they are. It’s annoying, but at least now you know why men stare at women. 

But do you want to know how to piss the men who stare at women off, or what men really imagine when they stare?

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How Can Women Manipulate Men Easily?

Do women manipulate men? Most women try but fail to manipulate their man convincingly. Here’s a complete guide to manipulating men in the easiest possible manner.

Read the first of the top ten ways on how to manipulate men before reading these five pointers on manipulating men to do your bidding.

#6 “Fine! I’ll do it on my own!”

Emotional blackmail. Guys can’t stand it, but they also can’t do anything about it.

So the next time he says he won’t come shopping with you, don’t fly off into a fit of fuming rage.

Just manipulate his mind and say, “Fine, I’ll go alone, because none of my other friends are free. If they were free, I wouldn't have asked you anyways. It may be a little late in the evening, but then, that’s okay. It’s not like the city is not safe for girls to travel alone.”

Oh, and don’t forget to wear your best martyr expression, and make sure it’s wee bit hurt, wee bit let down.

#5 Get his mom on your side

Now, all the monster-in-law theories apart, the pluses of getting his mom on your side are just way too many to be ignored, especially when it comes to women manipulating men.

When the two most important women in his life are in it together, there is little that a guy can offer in terms of resistance.

Most guys, even the ones who are not mamma’s boys, still think twice before messing with their mum. So go ahead, be real nice to the in-laws.

#4 Foodie manipulation

They were not kidding when they said that the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. If there is something you really really want him to do, but you know he’ll refuse straight away, cook him a nice fancy dinner, light a few candles, and then ask when he’s in gastronomic heaven. 

It will be one tough thing for him to say no, and he won’t. Not unless his life depends on it!

#3 Blame it on biology!

Now, one of the best things about being a woman is that you can yell at him, act all pricey, irritated, and peevish, and blame it all on PMS when you get caught trying to manipulate men. Guys can’t contradict it, because they don’t understand it. And you thought nature was being unfair! Sometimes, it is unfair in your favor!

#2 Shed a tear

The age old, time tested weapon. A girl’s best friend in all messy situations and manipulative situations. He’s yelling at you at the top of his voice. And you know, this time it really is your fault. But you also know that saying sorry won’t shut him up.

So wring out a tear or two, and most guys will stop. When a guy sees a girl cry, usually his thought process goes, “Crap! Crap! She’s crying, oh my God! What do I do? What do I do???”

Most guys don’t really know what to do with a crying woman. And their first priority in such a case is to make her stop. More so, if she’s crying because of something that they've said. Even if they still think they are right, they will shut up. And they will be careful the next time they broach the topic.

#1 Seduce him!

Why waste time talking about all the stupid things that you always talk about, especially things like his depleting bank account and overdue credit card bills. Just tell him you want him, and you want him right now! Men are far more agreeable after a good romp. God, we girls can get wicked! 

So go ahead! Give it a shot. But remember, moderation, as always, is the key while manipulating men. The trick is never to let him realize what you really are up to. So if you keep wearing that hurt expression every time he refuses to come shopping with you, one day, he might just call your bluff and know that he’s just being manipulated into doing things for you.

At the end of the day, always remember that women manipulate men all the time, but to have the best effect while manipulating men, use these ten tried and tested ways to get things your way, in style!

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How to Get the Girl You Want

Bad boys may be good for a fling, but everyone knows they’re not for keepers. And good guys are boring. So how to get the girl you want without being too nice or too bad? Here’s a ten step guide to be the oh-so-desirable brat boy.

Continue reading about what kind of boys do girls Want?

Bad boys aren't bad anymore.

The good ones never were good.

So who’s the new super kid on the block?

If you've been preening yourself, and doing the bad boy thing because that’s what you think girls really want, it’s probably time for you to step aside.

And make way for the new man who’s stepping up to rule the streets. The Brat Boy.

We girls do like the regular bad boys that run along the likes of Colin Farrell and Robbie Williams, and they do have massive female fan following.

But there’s something about a bad boy with a soft side somewhere deep inside that draws us like moths to a warm flame.

Bad boys are good for a fling, but they’re not someone a girl can really take home to her mother. If you’re wondering how to get the girl you want, you actually need a softer side, to compete with the metro sexual man that all girls can relate to.

How to get the girl you want by being a brat boy

A brat boy is just that, he’s the guy who can be a typical bad boy, with a happy sugary twist. Go ask a few women who love Robbie or Colin Farrell, if they’d like to date them. You’d hear them all go giddy with positivism.

But would they be able to hold on in a long term relationship with them, and most importantly, handle their bad side? Nope, I wouldn't think so. So be the baddie, but don’t go all out, if you want to hitch the girl of your dreams.

It’s not to imply that you be the selfish jerk, lie, cheat, not work, steal, have paid sex or dirty habits, be UN-punctual and make only your girlfriend pay. Don’t try either, to be like the celebs or rock stars. You can’t be on drugs, an alcoholic or have a sex tape and expect girls to like you. Among girls, there is a huge space between fancying popular icons and in genuinely liking a guy for real.

Add on a few traits of the typical brat boy to your bad boy side, and you’d be a regular baddie no more. Here are a few traits that you could definitely look into and work on, to have all the women in your life dreaming and drooling about you!

Firstly, learn these tips on how to talk to a girl and how to ask a girl out even if you’re shy. They can help you a long way in learning to play nice and be fanciable by all women. Other than that, these ten steps should help you get the girl you want even before you ask her out!

How to get the girl you want with words

A rebellious attitude has everything to do with not giving in too easily. You should have assertive ways to get things done as you want, and you have to have the rising leadership qualities. Perhaps, you want to be very sweet and accept everything she says, which is sweet. But this can get boring very soon, and stop you from getting the girl you want, because she’d get bored of you even before you ask her out.

But since you’re a brat boy who’s playing bad, there may be a few girls who won’t be looking to get serious with you. But that’s where a brat boy can be the difference. Play nice sometimes and listen to her, and go against her at times just to keep her intrigued.

Even if it’s a serious relationship you’re looking for, don’t tell her you’re falling for her within a week or two. You can get the girl peeved by flirting with other girls!

Imposing this attitude gets girls confused. So are you interested, or are you not?

Let the girls make a few moves instead. The brat side of yours, or the wannabe brat side, is sure to be on a high knowing that the girl is trying to get to know you better by searching for you in communities on the net, paying more attention when you talk, even if you just quip a response to her questions.

The way you talk

The bad brat has a style in his speech! Be it the celebs with the ‘bad boy’ tag or the ones you know, girls can be won over by the bad boy’s way of talking. If you want to know how to get the girl you want, be the cool indifferent, confident speaker! Dare to speak your mind and say it without wavering. And don’t bother waiting for an answer.

Watch it when you talk!

Again, you can’t go about saying mean, rude or lascivious stuff like bad boys do! Respect women and also let it show. Many guys today are either truly mean or chicken out of situations when the women in their life need help. We women find them wretched and contemptible!

For most of the nice boys out there, this may seem crazy or even terribly hard to do. But remember, this is what girls really want, at least while you’re still trying to impress them. So don’t think twice, and try to be everything we've mentioned here to get the girl you want. After all, love and affection is a good thing, but too much too soon of anything can never be good, can it?

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Girl Things Every Guy should know About

Do girls like shy guys? Or is it those bad boys that they love? Find out what girls like and really want. Girls may seem confusing at times, but it’s all with good reason!

DO GIRLS LIKE GUYS WITH THE TAG “I’M THE GUY YOUR MUMMY WARNED YOU ABOUT”?

Whoo… aren't those types simply irresistible? Yeah, in the last decade! You know, these days, girls do listen to their moms once in a while. And there may be a certain few who get attracted to those types, but not all of them.

There’s something about the lure of a dangerous man that’s quite tempting. It’s something similar to the first cigarette, or the first time a girl skipped class to go to the movies.

It’s all groovy and fired up for a while, until it’s not such a big deal anymore. And let’s face it, guys who have to pretend to be every momma’s worst nightmare have to play their part too. And that means not too many friends, a bottle of beer or a ciggie all the time and a messed up and droopy look with ruffled hair.

Now how many guys can pull that part to the tee? And how many girls could really like that?

Answer: Bad boys are so last decade! Brat Boys are a better option though!

I’M REALLY SHY. COULD A GIRL OVERLOOK THIS FLAW OF MINE?

Sure. And you can overlook the fact that she’s just walked all over you, and walked on. Right? What is it with some men these days? You want the hottest chick with the best assets God could imagine? And you, i.e., The Dork, want to go out with her. Girls are fine with shy guys. But shying away from a girl? Nope, that’s no good.

Girls can be mysterious, but let me assure you one thing. Girls are not psychic nor are they telepathic. They can’t read your mind however red your face goes, and they would never ever make a move on you in the first place. Unless you’re super-sweet and she’s had a crush on you since the day both your eyes met and the history of love was rewritten.

So buck up your courage and make that move. You may have a wee bit of a chance of hooking up if you talk to her. But if you’re just going to sit down by the corner table, drool and meditate to acquire the power of clairvoyance, give up and get out. The girl will never even notice you.

Answer: First date? Acceptable. Shy on second date? Flush!

WHY ARE GIRLS SO DIFFICULT TO UNDERSTAND?

Guys who assume this to be a fact must be bloody joking! If you aren't able to gel with the women, maybe there’s something wrong with you. Or maybe that’s why ‘Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus’ is such a biggie. Women aren't hard to figure. They just play hard to get, they love making their guy jealous. They’re possessive, and they swear by the word, Vendetta! Get past that, and you’re talking smooth sailing.

Get real, you like women because they’re so mysterious and complicated (at least to you). If men and women were just the same, then they’d be a lot more homo-people, don’t you think? So let’s admit the fact. Women and men do get confused with each other somewhere along the lines of ‘once in a while’. So overlook it and worry about more pressing matters, okay? Like new cosmetics, clothes, designer wear, and night outs. Hmm?

Answer: Cause you like it like that!

Girls aren't really difficult to understand. They want the same things from you, as you want from them. So stop worrying and whining about the mysterious women of Venus and just go get a life.

Click here to read the introduction: Girl Things that Guys don’t Understand

If you’re a good guy, you will get a good girl. So go make a move!

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