Is She Using You?

Have you ever fallen in love with a girl only to find that you’re more lost and confused than ever? Gasp! Is she using you? Find out with these signs.

She may seem charming and cute.

She may even be flirty and just the perfect girl you've been waiting for.

But is this new relationship leaving you confused and low on confidence?

She tells you she loves you, but the way she behaves seems otherwise. Is she using you?

Every now and then, you may meet a girl who seems to fit snugly into the dream definition of a perfect girlfriend.

But if you ever feel a flicker of confusion in those first few weeks, chances are, she’s using you or she’s just put you on her waiting list until she makes up her mind.

Is she using you? – The signs

It’s frustrating to realize that you’re being used, even when you’re trying to be a great boyfriend or a sex buddy.

She may try to convince you that she truly loves you and wants to be with you, but five minutes later, her behavior may change and she may just act friendly all over again.

Ever been there? Read these signs to find out if she’s using you.

#1 She wants her space… a lot!

Are you dating a girl who clings to you for a few days, and then completely ignores you for the next few days? While playing hard to get may excite a guy, this is pushing the game too far.

Every time she ignores you or pushes you away, you may find yourself falling more madly in love with her. On the other hand, she’s probably interested in a few other guys or sleeping with them, just to work out her options. When a girl claims to love a guy, and yet avoids the guy completely for a few days every now and then, there’s a good chance there’s another guy in her life.

#2 Behaves like a friend

Does your new girlfriend behave like a friend now and then? She hugs you and cuddles you, and then pushes you away and tells you it’s all happening too fast and she’s not ready for it?

Ouch, any girl who behaves like a girlfriend but prefers to stay friends is obviously using your love and affection to feel better about herself.

#3 Her friends don’t know you

When a girl uses you, there’s a good chance you’re never going to meet any of her friends. But if you both do bump into a good friend of hers, does her friend even realize who you are?

And if you see her with a group of her friends and not one person recognizes your name, you’re in serious trouble of being played into a game of I’ll-suck-the-life-outta-you.

#4 You’re not introduced as a boyfriend

This is a no brainier here. But it’s something most guys in love almost always forgive and forget. Have you ever been introduced as just a friend? If she’s convinced that you’re the man in her life, she’d proudly display you like a primped up puppy in a dog show. But if she’s just using you, there’s a very good chance that you relationship status will remain as friends.

#5 She’s confused about your relationship status

Now she may be genuinely confused about the kind of relationship both of you share, especially if she’s just broken up with her guy or is still in a relationship with some other guy. But the point is she’s confused.

If she truly does love you, there’s nothing to be confused about unless she’s still in love with another guy. If that’s the case, you’re not the winner here. You’re the scapegoat filling up the blanks when her boyfriend or another guy doesn't have the time for her.

#6 She talks about her complicated love life

Do you spend more time consoling her or telling her how the mistakes in her life aren't really her fault? Girls who end up using guys are confused women who want to be reassured and loved all the time. She may be losing the love of her own guy, and may want you to reassure her about her own relationship and fill her life with happiness and extravagant gifts.

And yes, she wouldn't mind cuddling up with you once in a while for all the nice things you've been doing for her. This is seriously messed up!

#7 She makes out but only when she wants to

You may sweet talk her and take her out to expensive dinners, all in the hope of getting some love and appreciation back from her. And of course, a little bit of making out too.

But if you’re in love with a girl who’s using you, nothing really matters. She’d let you dance on hot coals almost all the time and make out with you only when she feels like it. She initiates it and she ends it, at her whims.

Her excuse: I’m still confused about my feelings for you/for my own boyfriend/the three other guys in my life.

#8 She dominates the relationship

Does she call you up whenever she feels like it, or asks you to meet her at her whims and fancies? A girl who throws her weight around a guy knows she’s already got him wrapped around her little finger. Don’t ever be that guy. You’d end up shattered almost all the time and you’d lose all the confidence you have.

Turn the table around and throw her around a bit. Two things can happen here. She’d take you more seriously, or she’s walk out of your life. Either ways, it’s a good thing for you.

#9 She wants you to listen, but not the other way around

Are you in love with a girl who loves talking about her own life and her little problems? Does she tell you about how bad her ex boyfriend was and why she had to cheat on him just to show him she has other options? Or does she confess to you about making out with a few other guys and wants you to tell her she’s not wrong and that she did the right thing?

And on the other hand, every time you try telling something to her, does she forget all about it or feign drowsiness?

A girl who only wants to talk and feel good about herself isn't in love with you. She’s using you as a priest to feel good about her own shortcomings. If she did love you, she’d be more interested to know about you and your life than whining about her own guilty confessions

#10 She’s in another relationship

Almost always, relationships where the guy is being used starts off with conversations about complicated love lives. The girl you like may already be in a relationship, and with each conversation you have, both of you may fall more in love with each other. She wants to go out with you, she loves to talk to you, and she can’t wait to spend time and make out with you.

But she doesn't want to leave her own boyfriend or end her relationship with him. She tells you she’s not happy, but she doesn't do a thing about it.

If you find yourself experiencing any of these signs that you’re being used, you better walk out of the confusing affair before you end up with a broken heart. After all, she’s probably got a few backups with whom she’s playing the same game anyways.

She may not do this intentionally just to hurt you, it’s just that she’s a selfish little cutie who cares more about her own happiness than anything else in the world.

Is she using you?

So what do you do about it now that you know she’s using you?

You have two options.

Walk out of her relationship drama before you get hurt.

Lose the love and just start using her back. With any luck, by removing love out of the equation, there’s a good chance you’ll behave more like a bad boy instead of a lost puppy and make her desire you a lot more!

[Read: Is she the one for you?]

It’s easy for a girl to use a guy because both sexes are used to the ritual of a guy pursuing the girl. Sometimes, she may reciprocate and fall in love. At other times, she may just end up using you. So what do you think, is she using you?

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13 Annoying Boyfriend Traits and How to Avoid Them

Ever wondered if you’re an annoying boyfriend? Well, here’s a list and if you indulge in any of these, rest assured, you’re definitely an annoying boyfriend material.

Ever considered yourself to be an annoying boyfriend?

Relationships are tricky, but some things are instinctive.

In love, boyfriends can be nice at times and at other times, they can be really annoying.

But seriously, there are a few things that most boyfriends do that are just not excusable at all!

So are you one of them?

Are you an annoying boyfriend?

Here are thirteen stubborn and annoying traits of an annoying boyfriend.

There may be a few more, but these pointers definitely top the most annoying things boyfriends do.

#1 Take me in the ass

This is just not good. We’re inviting you through the front door, so why the heck would you try poking your way through the back door?

Remember, an anal bang may seem exciting after watching a lot of porno, but almost all girls hate that kind of thing.

It’s creepy and almost any woman who’s tried it would tell you she feels like rushing to the loo each time you take her by surprise.

It’s scary, knee buckling and just gross. So stop pestering your girlfriend constantly to try new things in bed that could freak her out or even scare her. Deep throat, well, that’s an annoying boyfriend question too!

#2 Getting drunk on a date

Women just don’t like it when their boyfriend gets zonked out on a date. When you date a woman, remember your chivalry and understand that you have to protect her and take care of her.

Drink, but never to the point where you can’t drive back home or stand up straight.

When you go clubbing and get wasted like a heap of dung, it scares your girlfriend. The man she loves and trusts to take care of her is unconscious and helpless, and that’s just unacceptable and shattering. Repeat it a few times, and she may leave your annoying ass on the dance floor and go home with someone else!

#3 When you’re indifferent or rude

Women hate this about their boyfriends. Most men can be so frustrating at times. Ask a man “how do I look?” and almost always, he says “nice, yeah… umm hmm…” or “how many times do I have to tell you the same thing?!” without even looking at his girlfriend’s attire for a second! 

We know we've asked you how we look the last time we wore the same dress, but seriously, we like to be reassured and critiqued now and then. After all, we’re dressing up to look good in your arms. Can’t you help us feel good about ourselves when we’re going out? Is taking a few seconds out to help your girlfriend really too much to ask?

#4 Girlfriends don’t always need a sex machine

Every time we try to kiss you passionately or try to touch you all over, it doesn't always mean we want you to take your clothes off in a flash and dive board into bed.

We do love a good romp in bed, but sometimes we just want to have a good time feeling you up. It’s not foreplay, it’s sexy cuddling and girlfriends like it!

#5 When you get bored shopping

We understand that you take five minutes to pick an entire ensemble. Yeah, go nominate yourself for a world record. But you do understand that your girlfriend takes way longer than that, don’t you? So why is it always a surprise when you go shopping for more than a couple of hours with your girlfriend?

We don’t invite you to shop with us all the time, but on the rare occasion that we do invite you, do play nice. We’ll definitely give you a treat for being nice later!

#6 Exchanging glances with other girls

Now don’t get me wrong, your girlfriend doesn't really care if you stare at another girl when you’re all by yourself. She may exchange glances at guys when she’s alone too.

But when you’re around your girlfriend, learn to respect her by not straying your eyes on every cleavage or butt that presents itself in front of you. Most guys just can’t restrict their ogling eyes even when they’re around their girlfriend and try exchanging glances with some other girl. That’s demeaning to girlfriends, and makes us feel insecure. After all, if you can stare hard at other girls in front of your girlfriend, who knows what you’d do behind her back? Now that’s definitely an annoying boyfriend trait.

#7 When you ask, but don’t listen

Do you really take your girlfriend seriously, and think she’s capable of giving you the right advice? Girls hate it when their boyfriends ask for advice, and then drift away, look lost or make up their own mind without even thinking about what their girlfriend has been talking about. You’d listen to your guy friends, so why do you assume your girlfriend is incapable of giving you a good solution to your problem?

Straight answer, ask us a question and listen to us when we answer it. Or just don’t ask us for our opinion! We really don’t like advising a damn wall.

#8 Flirting with your girlfriend’s friends

We know men can’t resist flirting with a good looking girl. And your girlfriend does know when you’re flirting with one of her friends. Firstly, you’re being a jerk when you do that.

What’s even more annoying is when your girlfriend tells you not to flirt with her friend, and you say you never flirted at all, and it was her friend who was hitting on you all the while. You know, if you ever say that, that’s the lamest no-balls excuse you could ever give your girlfriend.

#9 When you’re being a sexist

Men have epic egos, we understand that. But man up and accept that your girlfriend can be an achiever too. If she ever gets a promotion, do you tell her it’s because she’s sexy or because her boss likes her?

And secondly, when we’re trying to make a point or argue with you, don’t call us a drama queen or ask us whether it’s that time of the month. That’s just you being a sexist. If you can’t win a fight, don’t use a low blow.

#10 Comparing your girlfriend to someone else

We hate it when you compare us out of the blue to your ex or even one of our friends. “Why can’t you dress up like your friend Suzy?”, “My ex used to do that for me all the time…”, “You know, my friend Kat is so much more understanding that you are…”

Now that kind of a conversation is never going to end well. And your girlfriend will just have one answer for you. Then go the f**k out with her! And yeah, that’s the last thing you’ll hear from her until you apologize.

#11 When you don’t take care of your girlfriend

When men get ill, they may be capable of dragging themselves into bed and lying low until they feel better. But it doesn't work that way with women. We need and absolutely love a lot of TLC.

If you’re ever nursing your girlfriend back to good health, try to be nice around her. Girls hate it when their boyfriends say they’ll hang out with them and start to act cranky after an hour. When you’re spending time with a sick girlfriend, don’t neglect her completely and stare mesmerized at the television, don’t roll your eyes when she asks you for more tissues or a foot rub, and definitely don’t get grumpy or grumble when she asks you for a second bowl of soup.

Doing any of that hurts your girlfriend, infuriates her and makes her feel worse. If you can’t take care of her, make an excuse and get out, if possible out of her life!

#12 Boyfriends who love to postpone chores

One of the strangest things about guys is their ability to sink into a comfy couch and become a part of the furniture within minutes. And once a guy is comfortable on a couch, it’s almost impossible to drag him out, for any reason whatsoever!

And when a girl gives her boyfriend any chore or requests him to do anything, he assures her that he’ll do it in a bit, and that never really happens. If you can’t participate in any chores around the house or even pick up after yourself after dirtying the entire living room, go back to your *bachelor pad* and build a beer pyramid. Why the heck would you annoy your girlfriend by being a lethargic walrus?

#13 The angry boyfriend and his shortcomings

Girls hate annoying boyfriends who blame their shortcomings on their girlfriend. It’s pathetic and really irritating. Ever lost your way and blamed your girlfriend because she didn't give you the right directions? Suffered a stomach ache and blamed your girlfriend because she chose the restaurant? Or my personal favorite, lost your erection and got limp in bed in the middle of a sexual romp and blamed your girlfriend because she wasn't *into it*?

If you’re blaming your girlfriend because you’re an angry idiot, seriously, man up and take responsibility instead of blaming your girlfriend for her food choice, her built-in GPS system or her sexual vibes, will you? 

So how many of these things do you indulge in? A few or almost all?

[Read: Do girls like boxers or briefs?]

All boyfriends find themselves in one spot or the other in this list of things that annoy girlfriends at some point. But how much of an annoying boyfriend are you, really? Or do you know of any other things that annoy your girlfriend?

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What Women Want in a Man

There are nice guys and there are great guys. Find out what women want in a man and what it takes to be a great guy that all women love and desire.

A lot of guys are pretty confused about what women want in a man.

Women are naturally drawn to some men, and likewise, women can’t help but drift away from some other men.

So what makes a guy a great guy and what makes him a passerby? Here are ten traits of a great guy that all women love.

So if you want to know what women want in a man, use this checklist and be the man every woman would love to have as her own.

Now a few guys may whine about the list being pretty darn hard on a guy, but naturally it’s going to be a pretty intimidating list.

You can’t become one of the best guys on earth by taking a walk in the park, can you?

And now let’s dive headfirst into what women want in a man.

#1 A man who can respect her

This may seem easy to do, but do you really respect your wife or girlfriend?

Most guys always consider themselves to be know-it-all and assume they’re better than their woman in every way. If you think your woman’s nothing but a sexy arm candy, how can you ever respect her?

Respect has to be earned, yes, but unless you truly believe that your woman has some great qualities and is even better than you in some aspects, you can never ever respect her. Learn to respect the woman in your life, and she’ll love you and respect you a lot more too.

#2 A man who can truly love her

You can gift your wife or girlfriend with pricy baubles and luxury vacations, but that’s not really the definition of love . True love is shared in small ways, every single day. You don’t need to indulge in public display of affection or cuddling every evening while watching television. But you need to let your woman know in small ways how much she means to you.

When you’re truly in love with your woman, pleasing her and compromising with either of your needs come naturally. Do you care about your woman’s feelings? Are you excited to hear about her day when you get back home? Do you look forward to spending time with your woman after work or do you get more excited to play games or watch the television? It’s the little things that really matter, and all these signs show.

#3 A man who can protect her

Women, as independent as they may be, still love to be in the company of a man they can rely upon in an edgy situation. They want to feel protected and taken care of, no matter what the circumstance. Can you be that guy? Do you think your woman really trusts that you can handle almost any troubling situation you get into?

#4 A man that she can look up to

Do you idolize or look up at anyone? All men have our own role models, whether it’s a freedom fighter, a business tycoon, an NFL player or a bodybuilder. You idolize them because those people have achieved so much and inspire you to become a better guy. If you truly want to know what women want in a man, be a man who can inspire people.

You don’t have to earn billions (would be great if you could) or win the Nobel Prize, but if you could make a difference in your own small ways, you could be that man. Be a good speaker, a great conversationalist, a great pool player, or just about anything else that’s beneficial in your life. As long as your woman is impressed with you for your skills, she’ll brag about it and love you for it!

#5 A man who is passionate

Women love a man who shows a lot of passion, not just in bed, but in everything a man believes in. Passionate men are inspiring and mysterious, and women love that.

You couldn't care less about an explorer in the Amazonian jungles or Jack Sparrow on his escapades, but there’s something so sexy about these men. You don’t understand what it is that makes them so passionate, and this mystery only draws women to them. Be passionate about something meaningful, be it your entrepreneurial venture, your woodwork hobby or your tryst with writing a book or painting, and your woman will love you for the excitement and passion you bring into her life.

#6 A man she can trust and depend on

A trustworthy man who is dependable is hard to come by, and that’s what makes these men so sought after. It’s not that regular men can’t be dependable or trustworthy, it’s just that they don’t care enough about anything to take things seriously.

What women want in a man is dependability. A dependable man doesn't let down his wife or girlfriend (though a rare occasion is excusable), be it the grocery list or helping her fix her furniture. To be a dependable man, you don’t need to have all the answers. You just need to be there for her, and help her in her time of need.

#7 A chivalrous man

Chivalry is old school, but it’s still something all women love and adore in a man. All men know what it takes to be a chivalrous man, but surprisingly, most men believe that being chivalrous is actually a sign of being meek and trying too hard to please a man. But contrary to what most men think, being chivalrous is not a sign of weakness, rather it’s a sign of respect by either of the sexes. By being chivalrous, it shows that you respect the woman, and be reciprocating to your chivalry, it shows that the woman respects you.

#8 A man who can groom himself

Yeah, let’s hit the basics again. You want a stunning woman with curves like a coke bottle, and a freak in bed, and a great talker and a dirty talker, and what not! And seriously, what are you offering her in return, a Homer Simpson lookalike? Seriously?

So look, the world is fair as long as you play fair and focus on reality. What women want in a man is attractiveness. If you want to be with a woman who’s everything you ever wanted to be physically, you’ve got to do whatever you can to look good for her too. Hit the gym often, go for an evening jog, or whatever works for you. Dress well and use a few manly cosmetics and rich colognes and perfumes. Look like a celebrity on the streets and women will trail you like you’re a real celebrity!

#9 A man who is ambitious

Ambitious guys could be laughed at, but when they make it big, they’re the sneering ones who can say “who’s laughing now?!”

Being ambitious is easy, but unless you do something about it and work your way towards your ambition every single day, who’s going to care who you are. An ambitious guy isn't a guy who thinks of great things, he’s the guy who does great things. Be this guy and your woman and all other woman will love you and want you. Everyone likes a guy who can think big and achieve it. If you can ever be this guy, you’re right on top of the gene pool, and of course, pal, you’re Mr. Irresistible!

#10 A man who can dream

What women what in a man is a dreamer, be it a fantasize in bed, a man who can envision his successful future, or a man who can tell magical stories while lazing on the hammock and watching the stars with his lover. Women love a man with an active imagination. Imagination is such a great companion at the end of a bad day, or while spending a romantic moment together. It’s cheerful, happy and such a burst of fresh air. Imaginative men create the best surprises, the most interesting conversations and the happiest moments in life. Seriously, which woman won’t love this guy and which man can avoid envying him?

What women want in a man

Now these ten traits may seem pretty far off for many men. But as surprising as it can seem, all these ten traits that women love are within every single man on earth. But it’s just that they don’t care enough to believe enough in themselves to be the best man they can be.

Make a change and be this man, and you won’t worry about what women want in a man anymore, not with all the women who’d want to be with you all the time!

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How to Be Good in Bed All the Time

Being good in bed isn't about flexibility or mastering positions. Learning how to be good in bed is easy for anyone if you know what really matters.

All of us want to be good in bed.

You obviously want to make your partner clutch their head in ecstatic orgasms and roll over in bed, gasping for air after you’re done with your deed.

Knowing the art of being good in bed is great, both for your partner and your ego.

But understanding how to be good in bed isn’t just about rehearsing sex positions or bending over backwards to try new moves that you read in a book.

To have a good time in bed, you need to remember that you have a partner who needs to be satisfied, and at the same time, you need to satisfy yourself too.

Good sex isn’t just about the to and fro, it’s also about the sexual aura and the vibes that both of you create around each other. If both of you feel sexy and passionate, the sex is almost always going to be awesome!

How to be good in bed

To have a good time in bed, you need to arouse your partner and yourself every time you’re getting ready to jump the bed. You need to feel comfortable with the act, your partner has to be aroused by you, and you need to be aroused by your partner.

Here are a few things you can do in bed to make your partner climax better and make your ego feel a lot better too!

Look good in bed

Wear your best nightwear when you get into bed. It’s easier to wear an old tee shirt and frayed pants, but that’s never going to create the same impact as sexy negligee, would it? Dress in comfortable lingerie or boxers that enhance your sexiness and make you look good. Arousal starts with the eyes, so work on your magic by looking good for your partner. And always remember this, the better you look when you’re on the verge of having sex, the better the sex will be!

Feel sexy and attractive

Do you like your own body enough to let your hands linger on yourself now and then?

When you like the way you look and feel sexy from within, you’d enjoy yourself a lot more when you’re having sex, and so will your partner. Lovemaking involves two people, so when you feel uncomfortable or awkward about your own body, your partner wouldn't feel excited too. People don’t have bad sex because they can’t get wet or get an erection. They have bad sex when the sexual vibes don’t feel right. If you feel sexy and attractive, you’d enjoy the fact that someone else can get to see the sexy you!

Sex is natural and so is your body

Sex is natural and not something you need to feel uncomfortable about. Most of us are constantly reminded throughout our childhood that sex is a bad thing. But now that you’re all grown up, you need to get over all the negativity you have about sex. Sex is a natural and exciting act that’s meant to be enjoyed.

Sex is something that can get better with time, just as long as you’re willing to give it enough time and attention to understand what works and what doesn't, just like counting calories when it comes to nutritious food. To be good in bed, you need to learn more about sex, your body and the body of the opposite sex. Take time to understand what works and what doesn't and use it to your benefit. When you’re confident about what you’re doing in bed, you’re definitely going to be great at it too.

Indulge in good foreplay

Women love foreplay, men don’t really care much about it. But that doesn't mean you or your partner should compromise just to satisfy each other. You should understand that sex isn't about compromising. It’s about indulging in something that’ll excite both of you.

If you’re the woman, dress up for sex or put on some sexy lingerie. Your man will obviously take his time undressing you, especially when you look so good in what you’re wearing. And as his hands and lips trace your lingerie, he’s going to spend a while teasing your body and running his hands all over.

At other times, play an adult movie that stretches for more than twenty minutes. Slip your clothes off and cuddle up while watching it in bed. Within a few minutes, before either of you realize it, you’ll be indulging in foreplay and watching a great turn on movie at the same time!

He likes it, she likes it, and everybody likes it! Who says foreplay has to be compromised to satisfy a partner. Always look for ways to create happy experiences, instead of settling for a compromise.

Explore your sexual side

If you want to know how to be good in bed, start exploring your sexual side. Each time you feel like the sex is starting to get monotonous, try something new to spice it back up. There are so many things that couples do to keep the excitement up on a high, and each of them are as unique as the couple themselves. Always remember that nothing is ever wrong in bed as long as the people involved enjoy it. And you’ll never really know how good something is unless you try it.

Understanding how to be good in bed can be simple, if you remember to create new experiences all the time and focus on your partner’s satisfaction at the same time.

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How to Look Sexy Without Trying to Look Sexy

All of us want to look sexy, but it’s not something that everyone can have and brag about. Find out how to look sexy and feel sexy without even trying, and join the elite sexy club.

While walking across a street, have you ever taken a second glance at someone of the opposite sex because they look so sexy?

All of us have.

And have you ever come across someone of the same sex who looks so sexy, radiant and perfect, like they’re a movie star or something?

Again, we've all been there.

So what do some people have that makes them look so attractive, even if they’re not really symmetrical in the face?

You can say that some people have the oomph and the sexiness naturally, while some others just don’t.

But that’s not really true. You can learn how to look sexy without even trying, and make a difference in your life in no time!

Don’t believe it? Well, change your ordinary life into a sexy life with these ten steps and see the difference yourself.

How to look sexy

There are a lot of things that make someone look sexy and attractive. And it’s not all about the outer appearance. Some of the sexiest people on earth aren't really the prettiest, but they’re still sexy. And you can figure out how to look sexy by just following these ten steps and walk into a new and improved sexy life.

#1 A gorgeous physique

Yes, this is physical and more of a shallow attribute. But it helps a lot when it comes to knowing how to look sexy. A great body involuntarily attracts attention and impresses the opposite sex. So hit the gym or pick up one of those fab workouts from Beach body.

Getting a well shaped body is one of the first steps in trying to look sexy. It’ll make you look good and feel really sexy. Clothes will look a lot better on you than it does on other people, and you’ll get a huge boost in confidence. This is definitely one of the first things to do if you want to look sexy.

#2 Dress well

Most people think they know how to dress well, but frankly, they really don’t. Do your friends always look at you in awe or compliment you for your great taste in clothes?

No? Then you’re obviously not the best dressed person in your group of friends. So you definitely need help. Read a few fashion magazines and pick up a few pointers on what would look the best on you. And use it well.

You really don’t have to spend a million bucks to look like it. So spend wisely, look great and learn how to look sexy.

#3 Groom yourself

If you've got a sexy body and have started to dress well, you’re probably noticing a lot of second glances already. But the devil is in the details. Don’t just stop with clothes and a good physique, it’s a start but it’s not good enough. Groom yourself. Get a flattering hairstyle, a few classy perfumes that smell great on you, and all the other works.

Sexiness comes from the inside, and if you feel sexy, you’ll look sexy. It may sound patronizing, but it’s completely true.

#4 Buy sexy underwear

There’s nothing that can make you feel sexier than sexy underwear, be it laces or silk. You don’t have to reveal it for all the world to see, but just knowing that you’re wearing something so sexy and beautiful inside your regular attire can make you feel good about yourself.

#5 Pamper yourself

Ever felt like buying that pedicure kit or that awesome massage chair? Go ahead and pick it up *as long as you can afford it all!*. Sexy people love themselves and pamper themselves all the time. Come on, you’re so sexy you deserve the best of stuff.

If you don’t believe you deserve a good splurge now and then, either on your cosmetics or on your accessories, then you’re not really feeling sexy about yourself. Love yourself and always look like you just stepped out of a beauty salon. Va va voom!

#6 Respect yourself and be respected

If you don’t respect yourself, you can’t be confident. And if you aren't confident, you’ll never really know how to look sexy, at least to the best of your potential.

Learn to respect yourself and consider yourself worthy of being respected by others, be it your friends or your own partner. Don’t let your friends take you for granted or throw you around like you’re not important. When you’re around people who love you and respect you, your own self worth will grow and you’ll learn to be more confident. And always remember this, respecting yourself is not a sign of being egoistic. It shows that you know your own worth.

#7 Love your life

If you want to know how to look sexy without even trying, learn to love yourself and your life. Be happy and have fun every day. Being fun and alive is sexy. Have you ever seen gloomy people who are always pessimistic or negative in life? They’re not very good company and they don’t attract any sexy attention even if they’re rather good looking.

Be the life of the party, laugh and be cheerful and look at the bright side in everything. Happy people always look attractive and they make everything around them come alive like a burst of fresh air. Be that happy attractive person and you’ll have potential mates lining up for your affection.

#8 Work your expressions

There’s nothing cuter and sexier than a hottie who knows how to be expressive in a confident and sexy manner.

#9 Learn to flirt

Knowing how to flirt can open a doorway of good times with the opposite sex. And if you club that art with figuring out how to look sexy, you've got a potent mix that would be irresistible to anyone.

When you look sexy, you can also come across as being intimidating and make the opposite sex nervous. But by being cheerful and happy, you’d also portray a warm and welcoming persona about yourself. You don’t really need to flirt outrageously or try to let someone know you’re interested in them. At times, all it takes is your happy personality, your flirty expressions and a perfect balance of blushes and teases.

#10 Feel like a sex god

To understand how to look sexy, you need to feel sexy and truly understand what sex appeal is all about. Don’t be prudish, instead dive into a few sex books and familiarize yourself with the good positions and the art of seduction. To feel sexy on the inside, you need to feel confident about your sexual prowess.

When you know you’re good in bed, you can’t help but feel confident about it. You may be happy with the missionary bang bang, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't know what could turn on the opposite sex better and what positions could be more exciting. Understand sex and what’s sexy, and you’ll really know how to look sexy, without even trying, of course!

Change your life using these ten simple steps on how to look sexy, and it would definitely bring you a lot of second glances and make a lot of hearts skip a beat.

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How to know if you are in love

Falling in love is a wonderful and crazy feeling that’s worth experiencing at least once in our lives. When you know you are falling in love, the way you look at the world and experience life can change in a moment. But the bigger question is how to know if you are in love? Well, find out here.

Falling in love is an experience worth living for. And the first time you fall in love, that’s a memory of a lifetime. But how to know if you are in love in the first place?

All of us have our own experiences in love, and every moment is as unique as the person who is falling in love.

Many believe in love at first sight while many others think the best kind of love is one where two friends understand each other and fall in love gradually.

Now however you may fall in love, the feelings are all the same. And when you’re in love, you’ll just know!

When you fall in love with someone, you start to experience feelings and urges that are quite unexplained and confusing.

Read these signs to know if you are in love.

How to know if you are in love

Falling is love may be a single emotion, but that single emotion can cause so many hormonal, chemical and emotional changes, it’s almost unbelievable.

You’re definitely in love if you’re experiencing these emotions.

Butterflies in your stomach

For anyone who experiences falling in love it first sight, you can’t really help but experience butterflies in your stomach.

It’s a vague sensation of wanting to throw up and trying to get to the loo at the same time.

Your stomach starts to perform intricate back flips and the insides of your stomach feel like they’re fluttering!

So why does this happen? Surprisingly, no one really knows why this even happens! But it just does.

Some scientists believe this is due to the release of adrenalin by your body because of the nervousness you experience when you fall in love at first sight.

Unexplained happiness

Do you find yourself kissing pillows, jumping up and down in excitement and joy for no apparent reason and giving your lover funny little pet names? You may just be in love. [Read: Cute pet names]

According to Helen Fisher, anthropologist from Rutgers University, when you fall in love, the levels of dopamine in the brain increase due to the increased blood flow to the regions where the receptors of dopamine are present. Dopamine, a pleasure chemical, makes you more excited, energetic and full of life.

The dopamine released in the brain make you feel sleepless, restless, full of happiness and make you think about your lover, a lot. Ever taken cocaine? That’s just like an intense burst of dopamine!

You can’t think of anyone else

When you’re in love, you can’t really think of anything else but your lover. They’d be tirelessly running around in your mind and you can’t work, remember things or focus on other interests. This is due to norepinephrine, a chemical compound that gets released along with dopamine, in the brain.

You get sexually attracted… a lot!

In a study conducted on several young couples madly in love, it was seen that the levels of serotonin, a neurotransmitter found mostly in the intestinal tract, dropped dangerously low, something that’s experienced by people suffering from obsessive compulsive disorder.

But on the other hand, it was noticed that low serotonin levels in young couples increased the desire to have sex. Talk about evolution’s way of forcing the ritual of baby making while we’re completely attracted to each other! [Read: Public display of affection]

You get depressed easily

Do you get upset easily if the person you like upsets you in any manner? Well, you may be in love. While the drop in the serotonin level makes you more horny, it also makes you depressed and anxious!

Even the smallest of things can upset you or your lover, and both of you may end up spending a lot of time trying to please each other with little acts of love and affection. While each act of love increases the love and attraction, each disappointment makes you more vulnerable to pain and depression.

How to know if you are in love

Falling in love with someone, and staying in love with someone are two completely different experiences. While most people believe it was love right from the beginning, falling in love actually begins with a note of lust and sexual excitement along with the flutter of love.

Falling in love is like a drug, and unfortunately, just like a drug, it doesn't really last forever. While the levels of chemicals like dopamine and serotonin gradually come back to normal after a few months or years depending on the type of relationship, it’s up to the lovers to find ways to keep the excitement in love alive.

Every time you have a crush on someone, the whole game of chemistry in love starts firing the Bunsen burners and we’re back to square one all over again. [Read:Chemistry in love]

But evolution and the hormone oxytocin though, have found a way to make lovers seek commitment and make couples fall in love forever. It has created stages in love, and all these experiences are just one single stage in the process of falling in love.

So how to know if you are in love? You’re going to be experiencing every single emotion that’s been explained here. But is your love going to last forever? Well, that’s a whole different story!

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How to Ask a Friend Out

Want to know how to ask a friend out? Here are all the tips you need to warm your friend up and pop the questions at the right time, in the right manner.

Click here to read the introduction on what to do when you like a friend before you follow these steps.

Figuring the exact way on how to ask a friend out can be tricky and confusing.

After all, the repercussions of asking a friend out can be quite unpredictable, and can change the relationship forever.

So how do you ask a friend out on a date? You may have had a crush on a friend for a long time, but unless you really know how to tell your friend that you like them, don’t tell them.

Instead, warm your friend up into love the right way, and before you know it, your friend might just fall in love with you!

How to ask a friend out

In almost four cases out of five, when you ask a friend out, it is turned down. It’s not because you’re not attractive or fun to be with, it’s just that there was no reason for your friend to look at you as a potential date.

And when that happens, it can be very embarrassing and painful, and at the same time, your relationship with your friend can never stay the same.

It wasn't like you asked someone out and then became friends with them.

In this case, you actually asked a friend out. And it’s a big difference.

So really, you've created a major flaw in this whole scenario. You never really did let your friend know you've got more than friends on your mind. Had you made that clear, perhaps, your friend would be able to give you a thought as a potential mate.

So what happens then?

There you are, lost in the buzzing of surprise, frustration and sadness spinning within your head. This doesn't make any sense, does it? Both of you have always shared the best moments together, and have loved all the times you've shared with each other… Now what was the need for your friend to respond in this manner, you ask yourself.

You know what you remind me of?

You remind me of one of the hundred sky divers who jumped off the airplane, and you were the only one who’s never done this before! That’s not stupid enough? Well, consider this, you've forgotten to strap on your parachute! Freaky, don’t you think? Well, a sudden, unexpected proposal of love feels just as shocking.

There are a few better ways to let your crush know you like them. Ways that are a lot safer and have fewer odds against you. And something that won’t leave you broken hearted in the end.

Never use the stupidest and most common ploy, which is getting psychotically drunk, and either grabbing them and groping everywhere, or droning on about how much you love them, and since how long, and how you want to get married and have babies together. That will most likely make your friend run away screaming. Or you’ll find them back again, this time with a chainsaw! And all this even if they ever fancied you in the first place. You might call this an act of punch drunk love, but everyone else calls it the evidence for a restraining order!

Creating the perfect setting for love

If you want to let your friend know what’s on your mind, let them know, but do it in a very subtle manner. To begin with, flirt a bit. See if you get anything reciprocating back towards you. It’s hard to judge these things because we all know that flirting between friends can be cute at times. [Read: How to flirt by touching]

So look for those signs to see if they are genuinely flirting back with you. Accept it that there is no sure shot sign to know that your friend is getting infatuated by you unless they grab you near the corner and start cuddling you, but you could at least let them know that they are looking at a new side of you, something that they hopefully, will like.

Don’t ever behave like a doormat when this friend is around, and don’t throw yourself at their feet. Have fun when the both of you are together, and make sure you give your crush a lot of space. Let your friend miss you once in a while, let them know that being with you is fun and something that they enjoy. This is probably the best way to get your crush to like you.

Once you think the time is right and you feel that your friend has got enough of a hint to wonder if there’s something more than just friendship brewing between the both of you, get your moves right. Be brave, find the perfect time, and a quiet moment, and ask them if they want to go out with you sometime. Yes, as more-than-just-friends. Let your friend know that there’s no pressure, and if they don’t want to, it’s alright and you’d be happy to remain good friends. Be prepared for a knock back, and hope for the best.

If it doesn't work out…

You've tried your best, you've got your message across and there’s nothing more you can do. But be nice, however disappointed you feel. You may have built things up in your head, but it’s not your fault that your friend didn't see things the way you wanted them to see it. Make it a point to keep in touch, but don’t trail along like you've got no one else or nothing better to do. And stop whining about the great love that never was.

Scrap it down as an experience. Make sure your life doesn't revolve around this friend, however hard it might seem. This would only make things harder for you as well for your friend. Have fun with other people and try finding someone who fancies you just as much as you fancy them.

If your friend accepts…

Lucky you! Told ya it’ll work! Good for you!

So now that you know how to ask a friend out, keep these pointers in mind and always remember to play it cautious. Send out a few signals and try to find out what your friend thinks of you before you pop the question.

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