What to Do When You Like a Friend

What to do when you like a friend? Do you tell them or do you keep it quiet? Liking a stranger is confusing, but liking a friend is like stepping on a mine field, you never know what could happen until you take the next step, says the Super Kitty.

Are you confused over your feelings towards a friend?  Do you think you like a good friend in a manner that’s more than just friends?

So what do you do when you like a friend? Here’s a complete guide on dealing with the confusing dilemma of liking a friend.

What to do when you like a friend

Perhaps you've loved this friend since the very first time you set your eyes on them, or perhaps “true love” blossomed out of your long friendship.

Now do you tell your friend about your crush, or do you just hold it in your gut, while another person whisks them away from right under your nose?

But even if you have to blurt it out, how are you supposed to know if the feeling will be mutual?

Or would you just turn invisible in this person’s life all said and done?

You reminded yourself that you’re just a friend every day, but at night, you could never fall asleep without kissing your pillow with this person’s name on your mind, and a limp smile on your lips. How touching, isn't it? It seems straight out of a page of an old romantic novel.

Understanding what you feel

Sometimes, your affection towards a friend could be obvious from the start. Many people actually try to become a friend with someone they like only because they’re attracted to them in the first place. So are you one of them?

If this is the case, you’re obviously not being a friend to lend a shoulder. You just like all the touching!

But either way, you have to understand that both of you have developed a friendship now. And your friend may never even have assumed that you like them. So this whole love thing could turn out to be a betrayal of friendship rather than a declaration of love.

Before you dive in head first, give your feelings a serious thought and ask yourself if you really need to turn your friendship into romance.

Do you really like your friend?

Think long and hard before you profess your undying love since last week or last year, to this friend of yours. Make sure it isn't just a crush, or a fling thing that you’re looking for with your friend. [Read: How to text flirt with a friend]

Take a weekend or a few days and ask yourself if you like your friend. If you’re still not sure, it’s better you go clubbing and hook up with someone for a fling, rather than damage a good friendship. Sometimes, we end up assuming we've fallen in love with a friend just because of all the attention they’re getting from the opposite sex.

When this friend of yours speaks well with you and hangs out with you all the time, while spurning all the other prospective dating materials away, it’s easy to confuse this sexual attraction with with feelings of love and affection.

And you obviously like the attention. At times like these, it’s very easy to start looking at your friend more like an attractive member of the opposite sex than a good friend who likes your company. This is one of the biggest reasons why many people fall for a friend. [Read: How to have sex with a friend]

Are you ready to take the next step?

If you’re really sure that you’re madly in love with your friend, is your friend single? If your pal is already happy in a good relationship, it’s probably better to just drop the thought than to split a couple just to satisfy your needs. And you've got to realize that if you’re good enough to break the couple’s love, why isn't this crush of yours with you already?

One fine day, you probably decide that it’s time to blurt out the truth, that you’re madly in love with your friend, and you can’t imagine living your life without them. You sum up all your courage, and with a big lump in your throat and a stutter almost perfectly replicated to that of Hugh Grant, you bumble away and profess your undying love.

Most of the men would have been in this situation and well, the answer was lurking in the shadows even before one could pop the question out! A big resounding NO! And a cold shoulder for the rest of eternity. Seriously now, what’s wrong in confessing the hidden love for a friend?

It isn’t very different when a girl confesses her love for a guy either. The guy would just stare at her with those dazed eyes, similar to the ones trapped in front of a speeding train, and when you’re done, he would wiggle his toes and blush, but there’s nothing more you could get as a reply? That’s it? Seriously, what the hell?!

When you start to like a friend, you have to be willing to suffer the consequences and the embarrassment. But it doesn't really have to end in a negative way. Just be sure you know why you like a friend, and we’ll show you what you have to do.

So what to do if you like a friend? Firstly, make sure it’s really love and not a little crush that can be forgotten in a few days. Secondly, continue reading here about how to ask a friend out once you’re sure you like your friend.

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The Sexual Role Play Guide for Beginners

When you’re in a relationship for a while, sex can start to become more of a routine than a lusty romp. Learn how to make sex with your lover as exciting as a one night stand at a party with this sexual role play guide for beginners!

Sexual role play isn't unheard of, and most of us may even have indulged in it without actually realizing it.

Even the most passionate sex can run out of passion and even the most intimate acts of sexual ecstasy can run out of steam after a while.

It’s at times like these when sexual role play and costumes can save your bedroom woes, and help you reignite the passion in the sack.

Sexual role play for beginners

When you’re ready to take sex to the next level, sexual role playing can be the perfect way to heighten your pleasure.

Sexual role play makes it easier to look into your deepest desires and reveal them to your partner.

You may have tried every position under the sun, but after a while, the different positions can just get boring, and become a mighty pain in your backside or some other part. Instead, be creative and indulge in a bit of sexual role playing.

Many people love sexual role playing and even celebrities like Christina Aguilera, Katy Perry and Russell Brand have confessed that they love role playing. Christina’s even revealed that she loves dressing up for sex, and has different costumes to suit her moods. Her favorite seems to be the nurse’s outfit.

And don’t we know about Russell Brand’s sex tip to Wills and Kate? “Spice up things in the bedroom by pretending to be French”

Or wait, did he mean a French maid costume?

The problems with good ol’ sex

You’re probably having sex occasionally with your lover, but there may be a few times when things move a little too fast, and even before you know it, the deed’s done. If you’re the guy, you may not want it to end, but sometimes due to pressure of performance or any other reason, you may just not be able to hold on long enough. Or if you’re a girl, you might find things a bit too painful because you’re just not ready for the stick to slip into a wet patch.

These are just a few things that can be a big turn off in bed, even if it happens once in a while. But when these things get repeated every now and then, sex can become as frustrating as a bad day at work.

The main problem with sex is that foreplay can take too long, or one of you may just want to have mad sex rather than please the other person. Now that may seem selfish, but everyone has one of those days when they just want a change in their monotonous see-saw.

You’ll just have to make sure this sort of inconsiderate sex doesn't happen all the time. But whatever may be the case, sex can become a bore after a while, unless you innovate.

What exactly is sexual role play?

Sexual role playing is the method by which you heighten your sexual arousal by re-enacting a scenario, and wooing or seducing your partner, in a manner that arouses them just as much as it arouses you.

Basically, sexual role play is a game of seduction where you and your partner enact different characters, and dress up just like the character and make sexual advances at each other. You could be the ‘doctor’ while your partner could be the ‘patient’, or just about any different scenario that arouses you. Santa and the naughty elf, anyone?

Most of the time, sex just happens without any preparation or planning. Someone decides to get horny, and habit and repetition has taught us enough to know how it’s supposed to feel. Five or maybe twenty minutes later, one of you rolls off and the other probably feigns death. With sexual role play, this would never happen, because you know you’re a part of an act that will eventually end with sex.

The whole time you’re thinking about nothing but sex, and you’re getting aroused thinking about it, and you can’t wait to pounce on your mate.

Learning to role play sexually

Sexual role play cannot be learnt from a book or from someone else’s mouth, it has to be experienced. And you’ll have to understand what turns you and your partner on better than the other role playing characters. But once you’re comfortable with the act of sexual role play and costumes, sex can become as exciting as your first night together, because, literally speaking, the person you’re having sex with is, a totally different character!

Sexual role playing only gets more interesting with every passing night of sex, and not only will it ignite your sexual fantasies, it’ll morph both of you into cute horny bunnies! Click here to read about role playing sex games and how to role play in bed like a pro.

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How to Role Play in Bed – Role Playing Sex Games

Long term sex can be satisfying, but adding an ingredient of role playing sex into your bedroom can make it electrifying! Learn how to role play in bed with these tips and ideas that can change your bedroom tales forever.

Click here to read the introduction on sexual role play for beginners.

Do you really need to learn how to role play in bed?

Role playing sex can actually change your lives for the better if you know the rules.

The need for role playing sex

Even the happiest couples in love can suffer from a drought in their sex lives.

You could be madly in love with your partner, but quite frankly, emotional love and mad, sexual passion are two completely different things.

You could actually be in love with someone and yet, lust about another person.

Worried that might happen to you? Well, don’t be. There are quite a few ways to bring the sizzle back in the sack, and costumes and role playing sex is definitely one of the best.

How to role play in bed

If you've never indulged in role playing sex or anything close to this before, then you may think the whole game is just hilarious. And extremely stupid.

But like it goes with everything else, you never know what you’re missing until you try it! Wearing costumes while having sex may make you feel uneasy and uncomfortable, but the more you feel the part, the more the fun for both of you.

For beginners, you could just play along without the costumes, and opt for roles that wouldn't make you uncomfortable. Choose to be a delivery girl instead of a stripper, or opt to be the mailman instead of a doctor.

After you've done it a few times, you can move ahead with more adventurous role playing sex games that both of you will be eager to explore.

Learning how to role play can be exposing and awkward at times, but with time, you would learn to enjoy yourself and be comfortable with your own body, even if it’s a bit on the fatter or skinny side. Be prepared to experience something new, and enjoy yourself.

How to role play the right way

Remember role playing sex is a lot better than regular sex because you can actually enact any fantasy that you've ever had, and with role playing sex, you can actually spend a longer time waiting in anticipation for great sex, instead of just having sex without any preparation.

Choosing your characters to role play

Choose a character that has always enticed or motivated you, something that gives you a boost of sexual adrenalin, and let your partner choose one that suits them. But remember, the characters that both of you choose should be able to blend with each other. A few of the all time favorite role playing sex characters that are preferred over the others all across the world include these.

Teacher – Student

Slave – Master

Plumber- Housewife

Photographer – Model

Escort – Client

Doctor – Nurse

Stripper – Client

Fireman – Trapped person

These are just a few of the different characters that you could opt to play, and if you have the perfect costumes to go with it, you could guarantee yourself a totally wild night of role playing sex.

The rules of role playing sex

Knowing how to role play in the game is the most important part. Enjoy the game, even if your lover decides to dress up like the Giant Horny Bird or as the Fat Bastard from Austin Powers, just go with the game. You’re doing this to make sex a lot better for the both of you, so avoid judgment, unless of course, your partner’s costume or behavior grosses you out.

Sometimes it’s easy to get caught up in role playing sex, and overdo it once in a while, so if anything gets boring or uncomfortable, just cut it out. Learn to have good sexy conversations to turn each other on.

And most importantly, before you even think of shedding your clothes, shed your inhibitions! Or you wouldn't be able to pull off something that can excite the both of you.

Once you’re comfortable with the theme of your role playing sex game, learn to dress the part. Accessorize, use the right kind of perfume, dress well and behave the same way. A few minutes into the game and you would be aroused a lot more than you would have ever thought. So play this game with the right spirit and interest and you’d flood the sheets before you’re done!

How to enjoy role playing sex

Enjoy the game with your partner. Remember, having sex is not all about penetration, but about the way you feel during the whole act. And great sex is more in your mind than in your pants.

So learn to tune your mind into the mood when you indulge in role playing sex. Role playing sex doesn't have to give you an extra dose of orgasms, but it helps you prolong the game, so that both of you can have fun and experience the full effect of a good night of sex and games.

So, get into it, make it intense and safe, and always agree that it can end the moment someone feels uncomfortable. It is good if you can understand that just because it doesn't work once, it doesn't mean that you should stop trying.

Just like different couples find different ways to rekindle the lust in long term relationship by swinging or making out in public, role playing sex is just one of the many exciting things you can do to spice things up in bed.

Role playing sex is always fun, if done the right way. If at first you don’t succeed, try again. And soon, you might understand the wonders it can do to your sex life, and how good it can feel for you!

Now that you know how to role play in bed, create your own exciting role playing sex games and set those boring nights on sexual fire!

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The Different Kinds of Regret

There are many kinds of regret, and along with the if-only thought, any kind of regret will only stop you from progressing and living a better life. Find out the different types of regret and how you can deal with it.

Click here to read the introduction: How to Overcome Regret

The Angst and Anger Mixture

Regret comes with a package. It is a mixture of grief and anger. You break up, you’re angry that you’re the dumped one or the one that’s alone, and you regret ever having gone out with someone. You blame fate, why on earth did it happen to just you. Why the heck were you handpicked for all this torture?

And then we blame ourselves. If we wouldn't have done that, things wouldn't have turned out this way. And lastly, we put the blame on everyone and everything around us. The whole world is conspiring against us. But seriously, what do we gain from these thoughts? Zilch. Absolutely nothing.

When you really want to come out of the misery, you will have to work rationally on it. Separate the anger and the grief. These are two different components, and unless you are willing to see them as two different entities, you won’t be able to come out of your regret. Try to figure out what causes the anger, as only you can do it. And prune the causes, so that you are not hurt again by the same things. You can make your anger subside by not repeating the same mistake again. Remember, anger gives you more reasons to regret. And unless you want to spend all your life regretting, do not make the anger cloud your rational thinking.

Babysitting the Grief

Sorrow is natural. All of us grieve. We grieve when we lose something, someone, when our dreams are shattered and for many other reasons. I remember a story that I heard when I was three, but it’s still imprinted in my memory as if I heard it yesterday. Perhaps you've heard it too.

The story is about a woman who comes to Lord Buddha with her deceased child and asks Him to bring him back to life. The Lord told her that he would do that if she brings a handful of mustard from a house in which nobody has died. Needless to say, the woman was unable to. Need I narrate the moral of the anecdote? You are not alone, so stop feeling like you’re being picked on as a guinea pig for grief.

Click here to read the introduction: How to Handle Regret

The Dream Catch

When your dreams are shattered, what can you do? You wanted to become an astronaut. So you couldn't do that. Cruel fate, isn't it? But your life didn't end there, did it? You’re still alive, and it’s because, as cliched as it seems, your work here hasn't finished. Try to know your real motive. Why did you want to be an astronaut? Because of the fame or because you wanted to hang out in free space? It’s all about figuring the actual reasons behind your motive. Try to analyze your dreams and start afresh. Take regret out of the picture, and you just might end up happy!

Anger Management

Like grief and regret, anger too is a natural act. All of us get angry at one point or the other in our life. But if all you see is red, all the time, it’s time you contemplate over it. What is your anger telling you? A few years ago, I was always angry and for no reason at all. Everyone around me could see the distinct change in my behavior, and some even suggested professional help. After a lot of issues and tantrums later, I figured out what was bothering me.

I just wasn't able to spend quality time with my spouse, and that made me feel guilty. And that guilt had turned into frustrating anger. But instead of overcoming it, I was making it worse. But I didn't drown myself in a sea of guilt. I tried making use of every moment which I spent with him. A few months later, I was promoted and didn't have to spend the extra time at the office. Sometimes, you just need to find the root of all your issues, and you might just realize that your own frustrations in life are actually the culprit when it comes to making you feel worse.

Respect Love

Have you ever regretted any move that you made for your loved one? I haven’t, and I doubt if you have. Remember the day when you had to skip work, because you had to help your partner who wasn't feeling all that well? You don’t regret it, because it felt good to be there and look after your loved one. But it isn't always easy all the time. The path on which you are a heading may be tricky, laid with anxiety, uneasiness and fear. It pounds at your heart. You would want success but would dread the risks. Your impulse to champion the oppressed might compete with panic for your own sorry hide. Don’t fear when you are heading towards love because you will never regret it.

In life, it’s easy to force anger inwards or at others because of your own regrets. And it’s easier to sink in so deep that you’d lose all your confidence and never find your way back to the happy life. But take a step back and reflect. Understand the reason behind your regrets, and you’ll know when to call on regret as a motivator that will forcefully remind you not to make choices that will leave you sorry. And for that, you need to make an amalgam of grieved losses, reclaimed dreams and articulated anger.

And until then, just learn to let go.

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How to Handle Regret

Regret can affect us in many ways, but as long as you know how to deal with it and handle it, you’ll always have a happy life free of anger, rage and misery. Find out how you can eliminate regret from your life.

Click here to read the introduction: How to Overcome Regret?

Regret is inevitable. But it doesn't have to take us to the negative zone, and hit us right between the eyes. There are two types of regret, one, which holds us back and makes us wallow in self pity, and the other, the good one, which makes sure we don’t lock horns with the same deal again.

You should be worried if regret is your constant companion or even if it creeps within you once in a while leaving you in a dark mood and forcing you to deal with oscillating frequent mood-swings. All of us frequently experience the urge to run away to a place where there is no regret. Have you ever noticed that when you shed tears, you feel refreshed the next day? Tears wash away all our woes. Same is the case with regret.

When you regret, it leaves you stronger and at the same time, more vulnerable. But generally, we take being strong as being bitter and familiarity with an unstoppable resilience. And we are left with many unanswerable questions and with culpability.

The whole point here is that regret can be your worst enemy or your best friend. It all depends on how you treat it and what you want.

Categorizing the Evil

How can you figure the kind of guilt that’s nagging you, is it the good one or the bad one? The answer lies in the fact that regret is destructive only when we chose to make it destructive. There is no good or bad regret. We live in the present and we somehow never regret the present, the two time zones that we ponder over and grieve in are the past and the future. Generally, and more precisely, it is the past that gnaws us. What often goes unnoticed is the powerful energy of regret.

As stated earlier, we grieve and regret over the past. But what is the past? This isn’t a grammatical question for which you need to search your old stack of high-school language manuscripts. It is a memoir, a psychological story. Literally, regret doesn’t exist. Mea culpa exists only in a mental state. If there were any means to change the past, who would have regrets? Inexorably, these emotions creep into our mind. So, is there any way we can change the sting of regret into happy vaccination syringes. Well, we can’t change the past, but we can transform the way we think of the past. We can try to get regret to work as a stalwart protector instead of working as a diseasing virus. Try these steps.

The “If Only” Disease

“If only I could do that”. This one is shoddier than your zit which has a unique way of popping up on thanksgiving or a wedding. We’ve all been through this “if only” phase and sadly it has never worked. It has always left the person drained emotionally and with a bitter mood for days. A friend of mine, who was dumped by her boyfriend never got another one because she thought it was her fault that he left her and regretted it to the point of obsession. Everyone other than her knew that the break-up was not her fault, and that some guys just want to play the field. Many of us think along these lines, “if only I had done (blah), (blah) wouldn’t have happened”. But it did.

We all know that the past cannot be changed. If it could be, it wouldn't be called the past. Of course, we understand that regret, at times, is unbearable. But you can’t go back and change what has happened. Grieve but don’t well up in it. Regret, but not unproductively. The “if only” regret is unproductive and would not give you any output.

Click here to continue reading: The Different Kinds of Regret

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How to Overcome Regret?

Regret is a powerful emotion that can break you and make your lose all your confidence from within. But once you learn to control and overcome your grief and regret, you’ll see that this world can be a great place to live in.

While going through a frayed, yellow novel, I paused a while to reflect on the bit that I was reading. No, it wasn't a steamy coiling and uncoiling of the hero guy and the lead chick, nor was it a nail biting scene in which the murderer was revealed.

It was a scenario in which a regret-stricken friend of the protagonist, when his wife leaves him, out of his drunken habit, drowns himself in alcohol and finally dies. Before his death, in quite the typical old novel style, he apologizes to his ex-wife. His ex-wife, who was still in love with her drunken husband regrets her moving out and “realizes” that if she wouldn’t have moved out of the house, her husband wouldn’t have died.

Why do I care, considering it was just a side-plot of a boring novel I was reading. It was boring. I should have chucked the novel back into the attic, instead of wasting the four hours on that book. I regret having spent my precious time on that book, when there were a million other things that I could rather have done. You’ve been there, haven’t you? At that point when you do something and wish you hadn’t. All of us feel that. And all of us just hope we had magical time turners so we could erase and rewrite our history. So we get to the big zit of emotions here, Regret.

What have you regretted about recently?

You regret that you are not able to spend quality time with your spouse?

You regret that you are not handling your children well?

You regret that you are not doing justice to your job?

You regret that you forgot your best friend’s birthday?

You regret that your dog died out of neglect?

You regret that you misbehaved at last night’s party, in which you drank like a fish?

It may be one of these, or anything else. But regret is inevitable.

A very strong statement to make, I know. But tell me, have you ever seen a person who has never ever regretted any of their moves.

A Dead Past

“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves, regret for the past and fear of the future.” – Fulton Oursler

Regret symbolizes the negative memories. The word ‘regret’ comes from the Old French word ‘regretted’ which means “bewail the dead”. Of all the negative emotions, regret is one of the most difficult to extricate as regret indicates, by definition, those actions of the past that we are unable to be change. The underlying factor is that regret cannot change the past, it only keep our mind locked within the past. The grieving is one of the greatest reasons for holding us back.

Regret sounds sweet in the drawling country ballads and often leaves us wiping our wet cheeks. But in reality, regret is the one thing that can turn us into something that walks around, but doesn’t exist, let alone live.

Click here to continue reading: How to Handle Regret

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How to be Happy in Life

Knowing how to be happy in life is a secret many can never understand. We struggle, save money and work hard just to fill our life with happiness, but can there be an easier way to understand how to be happy in life? Here’s a checklist that can change your life!

All of us want to know how to be happy in life. But we look for happiness in different ways.

And almost all the time, greed and want for luxury takes the driver’s seat in the pursuit of happiness.

And many years later, the older folk look back and realize how their pursuit of the finer things actually stopped them from enjoying the true happiness life can offer all around us.

How to be happy in life

If you want to experience true happiness, you don’t really have to follow the path others preach.

Each of us have our own paths to experience happiness in life.

So if you’re ambitious and want money, go ahead and make some for yourself.

Contrary to what many say, money and diamonds can make you feel happy too. So if someone says don’t chase money, you really don’t need to believe that person. [Read: Money can buy happiness in love]

The real secret behind knowing how to be happy in life is to slow down and look around once in a while, as you speed down the road of your personal ambition. The drive towards success can be fun, but taking a break to experience the countryside once in a while may slow you down just a bit, but that would be one of the happier memories on the road!

If you want to know how to be happy in life, and experience a life that’s more fun and fulfilling, try these simple steps that will definitely lead you to a happier life. Chase your dreams, but always remember these pointers to experience life, and you’ll understand the real meaning of happiness and the secret behind how to be happy in life.

Understanding true happiness in life

Happiness lies in progress, and as long as you feel like you’re one step further today than you were yesterday, you’d be a happier person. So whatever aspect of life you may be dealing with, make a few changes every single day, and you’ll be so happy, you’ll put Santa’s ho-ho-ho to shame!

#1 Be nice to people who matter

You’re the popular one, aren't you? Great! But are you actually nice to all of them? Well, you know your P’s and Q’s and you may also overdo them, but are you generally nice to your lover and your good buddies?[Read: Money Can't buy love]

There may be a few things that you've been doing wrong, like bossing people around or ranting and arguing for donkey’s reasons.

Slow down and take those rose tinted shades off. And be genuinely nice to the people who matter. Even if the progress is slow, you’d be able to notice that your friends will start to behave in a better way with you. If your friends trust you and enjoy your company, they’ll be nicer to you and would want to have a lot of happy conversations with you. Being appreciated and feeling loved can make you a lot happier in just a few days.

This is something you may not notice at first, but we all have a tendency to nag or whine about circumstances and people. Stop bitching about the people who are close and look at the positive side. If you don’t keep a check on this, we’ll only end up losing great conversations and great friends who are sick of all your negativity.

#2 Be more efficient

You do a lot of things every single day, but do you really put your heart and soul into every single thing you do? One of the things that are most frustrating in life is leftover business that’s been left unattended. Every time you feel lazy and push something away for tomorrow, you should remember that you’re only piling your stress up. It could be doing your laundry or checking up on an old friend. Try to be more efficient and you’ll see how calm your mind can be.

And being efficient isn't just about ticking away at a checklist. It’s also your behavior with friends and the people around you.

Do you still flatter your mate, or spend time with your loved ones on their special days the same way you used to? Do you really want to spend time with your partner or your family, or is it only because you have to? These little things do matter. Every little thing that you do does.

If you’re actually spending time with your lover or pals, whether you want to or not, why not just try having a better time doing it? And hey, happy times make you happy. And someone who sulks will only miss the happy moment. You know that, don’t you?

#3 Help someone in need

Do you have a lot of free time in your hands? Sometimes, true experience can be experienced in abundance by actually helping someone in need. It’s selfless, pure and it can bring an instant halo on your head when you look at yourself in the mirror!

It could be your friend, a lady carrying two huge grocery bags, or a child who needs help building something, or a charity.

You don’t always have to help someone like a boy scout, but when you walk past someone who needs help and you hesitate just a second wondering if you should help, go right ahead and help them! Even a smile from a stranger filled with gratitude can make your day.

#4 Meet more people

Meeting new people is the best way to live life to the fullest. The world is full of interesting people, and there’s an opportunity to meet someone interesting in every nook and cranny of your street. The chances of meeting someone interesting are high when you expand your social horizons. If you want to know how to be happy in life, go out there and mingle.

Salsa classes, book clubs, volunteer work, asking friends for help… it’s all out there, and filled with people just like you. Make a note on your checklist, the more effort you put in, the better your chances. Go out into the world and be seen with a smile on your face. And the world will smile at you.

#5 Party more

Now we’re not really being specific to parties that involve gyrating grinds and claustrophobic smoky enclosures. It could be anything, all the way from office dinner parties to the singles night-out kinds. To each their own!

But one thing’s certain, you will be able to meet a lot of people. If you’re not the party animal or if you don’t like the typical stampede of huge dinner gangs, then group up and form small groups among your friends.

You can take turns with a small group, each hosting a dinner party at their place every week or so, with the rule that at least a few outsiders are invited to the dinner every time. Keep yourself busy and meet new people. The world is full of people, millions of them. And they are all unique, just like you. And every single one wants more happiness in life, just like you.

#6 Ditch the bad habits

This is the hardest one, bang on in the middle slot. You may have bad habits, and this isn't restricted to booze or smoking, which seems to appear on pretty much anyone’s checklist of bad habits. Some people are lazy, some of us whine, and some of us hate getting dressed to go out. Ditch these habits. Only you know the small irritating habits that are holding you down.

If you want to be happy in life, you have to fill your mind with positive and enthusiasm. Go on out there and be ready for life. One of the best things you can do is to watch rubber-jaw Jim Carrels Yes Man. It could just change your life.

Don’t let any bad habit of yours hold you back from being happy in life.

Knowing how to be happy in life is actually very simple. It just takes a bit of effort, an open mind and positive vibes. Click here to read the next six points on how to enjoy life to the fullest.

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How to Enjoy Life

The world is full of special moments and experiences that are just waiting to be explored. And these pieces of happiness aren't hidden away in an expensive island or a big diamond ring. It’s right next to you and it’s all round you. Find out how to enjoy life every single day the simple way.

Click here to read the first six tips on how to be happy in life.

There are little moments of happiness tucked away in every small moment in our lives.

Don’t put away fun times and vacations for later just so you can work hard all the time.

How to enjoy life all the time

If you really want to know how to enjoy life, you need to remember that life can only get better when you sit back and enjoy the real beauty that’s all around you.

#7 Stay away from bad friends

You may spend time with friends and meet a lot of people. But at times, some friends could actually cause you more pain and make you feel frustrated all the time.

Do you find yourself putting up with people all the time?

Or is there a particular friend who just doesn't bother to keep up with their words?

The secret behind knowing how to enjoy life is to refuse to put up with people who want to throw their weight around you. If someone doesn't call when they promised to call, or they keep canceling date after date, then move on. You want to create a better life, and if that means putting your foot down, then so be it.

You don’t want to compromise on something that will only leave you frustrated and miserable, do you? So bring out your dusters and clean your closet off the dust that does nothing but bother you all time.

By taking a few friends off your life, it could feel emptier, but your life would be happier.

#8 Get healthy

This is probably the biggest cross-out of all checklists to happiness. Everyone wants to be in better shape, but a few weeks or months into a strict diet and we’d want to be anywhere but in the fitness center. Most of us lack the motivation and the drive to hit the iron daily.

If you have a partner, then join a gym or follow the diet plan together. Piling on weight may be the easy part, but losing those pounds needs more than just an alarm bell. You’d love to be around a good-looker, wouldn't you? What makes you think other people are any different?

Try to follow a routine of working out or running around the park for a few weeks. You’d realize how energetic and happy it would make you only after you try it. When you get your heart rate climbing, you’d feel fitter, confident and so full of endorphin that you’d stop worrying about how to enjoy life.

#9 More quality time

Just a couple of decades ago, life was blissfully perfect. Exchanging mails took a few days and reading books while lazing on the hammock was daily routine. But things have changed. Relaxing is a drink after work, and exchanging emails take seconds. Life is fast today, and the time for relaxing just doesn't exist unless you’re a god of multitasking.

But even in these hectic times, pause your life and step aside if you want to enjoy life. Spend your weekend relaxing or talking with your loved ones. Time passes by too quickly, and before you know it, you may be old and lost without any memories other than counting money.

It’s great to be successful, but at the cost of your happiness? It’s just not worth it. Success makes sense when you have loved ones to share it with. And taking a break now and then would make you happier and feel more connected with your loved ones.

#10 How to enjoy life with the simple things

Good times don’t always last forever. You may have spent the last year and a half working hard and living in non-communicative lives just so you and your partner could save up that extra bit for a vacation this summer. But you have to remember that good times don’t always have to wait for that perfect opportune moment.

Grab the proverbial simple things in life. Share more sunsets, walks and candlelight dinners in the backyard together. Spend some time just reminiscing about the good old days, or talk about those special moments that you remember fondly. Sometimes, the simplest things can bring more joy to us than the most expensive vacation in Paris or a holiday in Bora Bora. Pay more attention to what happens all year around rather than one or two special days.

#11 Learn something new

Now this might seem like going back to school or a project in arts class. But it’s really not. Your life isn't valued by money. It’s valued by experiences and moments. Very few people realize that, until it’s too late.

If you want to experience new things, you need to learn new things, whether it’s cooking or learning how to play the guitar. Each and every new thing you learn will give you a lot of happy experiences that you can share with your loved ones. And some of the happiest moments in life are the ones that are shared with someone we truly love.

12. Take calculated risks

Are you dissatisfied with your job? Or are you unhappy about your love handles? It doesn't matter what it is, but the time to change all that is now. Why settle for less when you know it can be better. If you really want to know how to enjoy life, you need to take a calculated leap of faith. 

If you've always wanted to do something, do it. If it involves a big decision, speak with your loved ones and do something to get the ball rolling. We love fantasizing about our dreams, but those very fantasies can also be very frustrating when you fail. Work towards your goals, one step at a time. Your milestones don’t have to rocket upwards in one go. Start easy and set little milestones for yourself, so you can achieve that one biggie you've been eyeing for so long.

It’s easy to whine and grumble about how unfair life is or how unhappy you are, but what you need to understand is that happiness is only a state of mind and change is in your own hands. 

If you want to know how to enjoy life, you need to weed out all those little things that bother you. And fill yourself with happy moments and happy adventures that can last a lifetime.

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